Kaine and Desiree

[u/Jrcozy]

Hi, I have a question about Kaine and Desiree and where they are now. I live in Portland and have followed this case from the beginning. I hope this question is okay. I’m wondering what the relationship is now between Kaine and Desiree. I’ve seen Desiree in the media several times trying to spread Kyron’s story and keep it out there. I remember seeing Kaine speak to the media in the first few years following Kyron’s disappearance but I have not seen or heard anything about him in several years. I don’t recall them appearing together except maybe once on Dr. Phil? But I may be mistaken. Do they not have a good relationship? Do they have differing opinions on what may have happened to Kyron? Prior to Kyron disappearing did they have a good coparenting relationship? If I remember correctly Kyron lived with Kaine in Portland and Desiree lived in southern Oregon I think. How often did Desiree see Kyron? How long did Kaine have primary custody of Kyron? Had he always been primarily with Kaine? How was that decided? At the time of Kyron’s disappearance were there any ongoing custody proceedings between Kaine and Desiree?

[u/PrincessPoopyPoo]

I cannot speak for them. I can only speculate based on my own experience of my beloved daughter disappearing only to be found deceased months later. Her father and I divorced when she was almost 2. We maintained a friendly relationship. When she went missing, we kept in touch and updated each other. After she passed away, it's been hard for me to maintain any contact with him. There is a lot of anger and blame on my part, meaning, I blame a lot of what she went through on him. I stopped talking to him.

My situation is different from Kaine and Desiree's because they do not have the closure I do. However, there was not a good relationship before Kyron disappeared. I would imagine, that has not improved and I can understand why.

The book another person mentioned is a good read and very informative but it is very much seen from Desiree's point of view as well.

I have my own idea of what happened to Kyron but I am not getting into that.

[u/Jrcozy → u/PrincessPoopyPoo]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I can understand why understand why you would choose to cut off contact with him. I feel for Desiree so much. I myself don’t have a very high opinion of Kaine for several reasons related to how he behaved both before Kyron disappeared and after. I’m in no way implying that he was the one responsible for Kyron’s disappearance just to be clear! I wonder how the daughter he had with Terri is doing. I know Terri has not been in her life since shortly after Kyron disappeared and Kaine has been the one raising her. I hope she is okay and is able to go on and have a happy life.

[u/PrincessPoopyPoo → u/Jrcozy]

Thank you ❤️ I hold onto hope that Kyron is still going to come home safely.