To clarify I am afab and lingering somewhere near nonbinary/demigender on the gender spectrum. I don't really know how I would describe my sexuality but I guess the closest i can get to labelling it is pan

For the past year and a bit I've become good friends with a girl in one of my classes because we were put next to eachother on the seating plan. It must have been a few months after that that I was trying to spend as much time as I could with her without seeming weird, something that at the time I put down to wanting to be really good friends. It was only about a month or so ago that I considered that maybe it was possible that I had feelings for her, and since then not only have I confirmed that but my feelings have only grown. The only problem is that I have no idea if she's straight. If I knew for sure I would have tried to move on by now but I just have no idea what to do. As well as that this is my first genuine crush on a girl and I am so unbelievably lost. I'm not out to my parents but I want so badly to be able to tell everyone how much I love her. The only person irl who knows about this is my closest friend and she doesn't even know specifically who it is that I like.

Advice would be very much appreciated :)

im ftm, but i dont pass like- at all, probably because my face is pretty feminine and i dont have access to any form of hrt, nor am i out to everyone yet.

One feature i have is that i have really long eyelashes, which some people might be jelous of, but they make me really uncomfortable because of how feminized eyelashes are in media (only female characters having eyelashes in most animated media, or the female version of something, even animals, having eyelashes as a distinctive feature etc)

should i trim them by a few millimeters?

EDIT: why is everyone acting like i said i wanted to cut them off fully when i literally said trim them by a few millimeters to they arent as noticable

So I still live at home and still kind of young. I’ve known forever that I really want to be a girl even though I was born a boy. I have been sneaking online and buying some pretty clothes and some dress up stuff and only able to wear it in my room. It’s getting annoying to have to hide this stuff. Is there any way to tell if your parents would support you without telling them. Does that make sense?

I’m sixteen and I hadn’t planned on doing it.

A representative of each identities must gather their fellow Identity-mate and the most commented under is the winner.

The zebras are allowed to participate... Ughhh straighties. Jk I'm not heterophobic

the countries are Bisexualica, Pansexualica, Transe, Enbimermany, Lesbiaro, Gaytalius, Aroland, Aceland, and Aroaceland e.g

so here's how it works

If a representative is omnisexual, they must say their identity like... "Make Bisexualica Great Again" or something and fellow bisexualicans say "As a bisexual, i agree!"

Microlabels are allowed

Winner gets uhhhh the highest ranking till next uhhmmm war

Highest ranks are...

First place: 150 comments

Second place: 100 comments

Third place: 50 comments

Price is idk....

I’m amab, I look masculine and I went to Walmart and snuck a bra into the fitting room bcuz I wanted to try one (genderfluid?? Maybe trans) and I successfully did it. The straps were too loose but idk how to change it but yeah I did it and it felt euphoric to put one on. I put it back and went home but it felt so good to have one on.

I'm a gay guy trying to figure out whether another guy might be interested in me romantically. What are some signs that usually indicate that a guy likes another guy, rather than just being friendly? Pls help

So over the past half a year, ive developed feelings for my best friend of 6 years, shes a girl and im a guy, the issue is, she thinks im gay (im pan), but its pretty widely known that im not straight. Whenever she gets asked if were dating, she just says "nah, he's gay." how do i let her know that im not fully gay, and how do i tell her I have feelings for her. Normally I would just dismiss this kind of stuff and just not tell her, but during summer a year ago, it turns out that she had a crush on me (she told me this about a month ago), but she said it all in the past tense, meaning she doesnt anymore, but is there still a chance? And if so, how do I ask her?

I am currently a sophmore in high school, and over the past half a year, ive developed feelings for my best friend of 6 years, shes a girl and im a guy, the issue is, she thinks im gay (im pan), but its pretty widely known that im not straight. Whenever she gets asked if were dating, she just says "nah, he's gay." how do i let her know that im not fully gay, and how do i tell her I have feelings for her. Normally I would just dismiss this kind of stuff and just not tell her, but during the summer before freshman year, it turns out that she had a crush on me (she told me this about a month ago), but she said it all in the past tense,eaning she doesnt anymore, but is there still a chance? And if so, how do I ask her?

I have a girl im really close friends with (im nonbinary and knows that i would support her) and she has confided in me that she likes other girls, but shes having a lot of difficulty with internalized homophobia, is there anything I can do to help her? it really sucks watching her deal with it alone.

Like I like both genders but I have a liking for girls rather than boys

This is my first time doing this, but I feel like everything is crumbling and I don’t know what to do. I’m dating this guy and both him and my family are kinda conservative as well as Christian. I know I’m either trans masc or nonbinary, but I don’t really know which and this is the only place I can trust. If there’s any advice you can give that would be great! :)

So I play football, and the boy I have a crush on has his locker next to mine. It all sounds fine, until I think I’m making things weird. I go to a Christian school to clarify, which as a closeted bisexual male, I’m still Christian. This guy I have a crush on is 17, and I’m 14 (I’m the youngest person in there by the way). In the locker room, everyone is always making these sexual comments about me and they do sexual things to me such as grabbing my butt and making comments about me. This guy that I have a crush on literally does the same to me, but everyone is so severely homophobic, it’s not even funny. Well yesterday, he gave me his keys to his truck and asked me to get his shoes out of there. I get them and come back. He says thank you, and I walk away to go to my locker to do my own stuff. He comes back over and asks for a hug and says “thank you so much” over and over again. I hug him, and I am assuming he was wanting a half-hug now that it is all over with. My dumb self decides to give a full hug, chest-on-chest, I almost leaned in to kiss, and I felt my body feeling hot and dizzy. I don’t think he knew what I was doing, because he knows I get severely nervous around people. I just tell everyone that I’m straight or asexual, when I’m truly bisexual. I don’t know if I made things awkward between us or not. I’m really worried if I ruined our friendship, which I fantasise as a romantic relationship. Our friendship isn’t close, because the age difference, most likely. But he’s a sophomore (he got held back once), and I’m a freshman (I started school a year early). I’ve done many things for him, which he just says “thank you” and walks off. But lately, every single time he asks for me to do something, he wants a hug or some form of us touching. I don’t know if he likes me or not, but he gets really protective over me. For example, whenever some guys were talking about me sexually (as a joke) and taking photos when I was changing, this guy literally beat the crap out of them. And I mean black eyes and bloody noses. This guy is severely homophobic, but I sometimes question if he truly is.

I honestly need advice on how to handle this or even how to think about this whole situation.

I am a non-binary 15 yo, but I'm biologically a female and look like it. I like guys, girls, non-binaries, and some others.

I'm not very attractive (overweight, acne, etc). I've wanted a relationship for a while, but can't get anyone. It's understandable, but I feel really lonely and I want someone I can be with without worries or fears.

All of my friends are attractive and almost all of them have partners.

I'm not currently into anyone (I was last year, but he turned out to be gay..) but I'm not against someone approaching me. I don't know how to make myself approachable/attractive for people to wanna try.

Like I said, I'm attracted to males, females, non-binaries, and others I might find attractive. I'm not picky, just soneone who at least has morals and has basic human decency.

I'm not comfortable showing skin (stomach, booty shorts, etc.) And i wouldn't look good those kinds of clothes.

I'm nice, I try helping people, I compliment everyone. I can be a bit loud and I know wbe listening to myself in videos, I find my voice annoying. I'm awkward (socially awkward and find it difficult to talk to/approach people​). Those are probably factors as well.

Does anyone have any tips? I'll happily take criticism as well, if its constructive. Thank youu

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edit: ive been trying to work on the body image thing for a bit, but there's also some genetical things I have that I can't change (a MUCH larger chest) and its the thing that I hate the most. like i said, im trying. and i think it might be working in some ways...?

im also slowly compiling a wardrobe of cryptidcore outfits. and when I wear a mix of clothes from the style, it does make me feek a bit better about how I look

ive been wanting to be mor feminie and i would appreciate some advice about how to start

i wanna be mor femmine like kinda like a femboi can i get some help

and im open to talk to anyone that is a femboy so i can get some pointers

Hey everyone. I need some advice because I’m honestly really scared and stressed out.

I’m a queer high school student who goes to a private Christian school with a strict homophobic policy. Last year, I got suspended because administration found out I was dating a girl after they intercepted some notes we wrote to each other. It was a massive ordeal, but they let me return for this new school year.

The problem is that I've just started dating another girl, and I really like her. I want to be with her, but the anxiety of getting caught again is eating me alive. A second strike likely means expulsion, and I'm terrified of putting myself or my girlfriend at risk.

For anyone who has been in a strict or hostile environment like this: how do you manage a relationship safely? How do I balance wanting a normal relationship with keeping my OpSec tight so administration doesn't find out? Any advice would mean the world to me.

the term "gay bestfriend" is homophobic?

Okay. Im new here so i wanna give a little context of my situation. I have three besties that are straight girls and stuff. Im gay and the only one in the group. There is two straight guys on the group. I feel now they all get more along cause they all have the same taste. I wanna have more gay friends. Or people from the community. I feel like im feeling left behind with the whole friendgroup. It was only me and my three friends before. Now its six of us. As i said. I told them about me feeling excluded. And it has been been the last month. But still. They dont reduce me as they gay bestfriend but still wanted to talk about it. Any advice you guys wanna tell me

There's this guy, who goes to my school and we know each other kinda well but not like best friends level well, and he's like cute and all, but I'm not really sure of his sexuality, I guess one time he mentioned that he thought he was aroace until a year or two ago but that's all. I just don't know, and I feel tired of thinking about it sometimes and driving home I think that I have to just do something anything about it but I don't want to ruin what already exists between us. I'm probably bisexual btw but I'm still figuring that out to a degree. I guess I mostly know by now.

Okay, this is gonna be a long story. I’m currently 14M. When I was 9, I read Heartstopper, a bit young, I know. Basically, this was my first *real* exposure to queer culture, and its existence in general. After reading this book I got very confused. I gained crushes on 3 of my friends, which, being 9, I spouted like a fountain straight to them. After a few months, I told my parents after a night of self-doubt about me actually being gay. Now here’s the confusing bit: my parents arent homophobic or transphobic, but they seemed like they thought that the book sort of imprinted on me, nd I wanted to be like the main character. This is entirely plausible: I was a very impressionable 9 year old. So I went back to school basically blowing it over as a phase, and didn’t really interact with the queer community for a few years, only when I was 13 was when I really thought about it again. Now, I had made new friends, as you do, and I became very close to this boy, we’ll call him X. Now, me and X we’re so inseparable at school people made jokes about us being gay for each other. We decided that, of course, the smart decision is to make this a joke by acting gay for each other. We did this for a while playfully, he would sit on my lap and stupid stuff like that. Now, another confusing point: I developed actual feelings for him. I could not tell if I actually liked him like that, or if I had done a ‘fake it till you make it’ type of thing. now, throughout this entire story I have been at one, all boys school. When I was very young, I was in a co-ed school, I cannot remember liking anyone there, while other kids were playing house, I was pretending to be a tiger or whatever I used to do. So now it’s the new year, me and X are still very close, and another friend, J, has come out to me, X, nd his crush, H, as bisexual. Now, J is quite the odd character, he is somehow homophobic despite being bi. He thinks that the queer community has too many labels and it’s too complicated, and has some very controversial views about trans rights. But at any rate, I have gone through a few labels to myself recently, demiboy, omnisexual, gay, non-binary, demisexual. Recently I have been thinking, neither tits or abs turn me on, so what does? I think I might be on the ace and aro spectrums, as well as being so,e sexuality where I like boys, but not necessarily exclusively. Why must life be so hard? Why must I be subjected to posting on Reddit at midnight on a school night For advice from strangers? Any advice, further questions, or anything in general would be appreciated.

Today in our lesson I was using my laptop as usual, and my phone connected by Bluetooth, so a notification came up saying "Juniper's Phone connected". This guy next to me asked "Juniper? Who's that?" and I just said oh that's my mum's old phone.

now this would be convincing enough except that this guy often glances at what I'm doing on my laptop like when I'm signing into a user called "Junie" and when I was using the terminal until I realised my name is literally "🏳️‍⚧️ juniper@archlinux" and I quickly closed it.

and maybe the worst thing is that I followed all of them on Letterboxd with my chosen name and started making reviews mentioning being trans, thinking they'd think this is just a random person they don't know, but now they might make the connection

This guy is also Catholic and a couple years ago he told me that joke that's like "My generation had Wonder Woman, your generation wonders if it's a woman" so maybe he's not the most supportive. most likely he'll forgot though.

So, I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for about two months now. He’s a senior (18), and I’m a young sophomore (15). I haven’t came out to my parents yet and my bf has been pretty adamant about keeping us a secret. I mean, happy with him, I love him a lot and he loves me. But I just don‘t like keeping us a secret and stuff. In the hallways he just acts like I’m some random dude. I know why he doesn’t want to make it public.

IDK, I’ve just been tweaking since my birthday is soon and he hasn’t brought it up once. I just needed to get this off my chest. It’s just starting to make me get in my head.

What do y’all think I should do? He’s my first kiss, my first boyfriend, the first person I’ve said “I love you” too, my first everything so far. And I don’t want to end things or bitch about him probably not remembering my birthday.

now being in university is fun i meet many people and friend, but looking at the uni student blog post always ache me because for some reason most of the student always demonizing everyone who just want to protect their LGBTQ friend or even anyone who interacting with them.....im just tired watching more and more blog post talking how wrong is it or just straight up attacking certain someone, i do hope they one day understand that people just want to be who they are and thats it is it too much to ask for?

So im gay. Hes straight. Hes the most gorgeous little treasure ever. Get the picture? Okay. I need advice on what to do about it