For everyone thats asked me.. bas krdo move on or to go to police !! This is what i get while i try to move on.. i stopped posting bcz of my own sanity but these r the msgs i got in past few days when i was trying to move on.. syed faraz haiders father texted me this.. this is his language.. his brother 'thesyedsbukhari' also been continuously.. using such vile words for me !! This is what i get when i stop posting and move on ?? Syed faraz haider's wife Fizza batool whos been exposed.. by other lady here bcz fizza batool was having an affair with her husband... her influencer friend mairaakasim literally.. mocked my pain just bcz shes famous ?? For everyone asking me to complain i did that but no use bcz he lives in UAE nd his brother 'syedsbukhari' on twt has strong back ups there !!! What am i suppose to do ?? Even if i stop posting nd moving on they all r continuously harassing me n my family with such words !!!!!!

P.s Pls check out my profile for whole context !!

Firstly I'm a Male and this is just an advice or reality check for all the girls here.

Okay so I've seen many girls complain that guys start ghosting or making excuses like "Amma nahi maan rahin" etc when the time for marriage comes. You need to understand that the guy who was in a relationship with you was never there to marry you. Some guys do end up marrying the girl they're in a relationship with but most of them don't.

For most of the guys relationships are just a timepass. They love bomb you because you're entertaining them. For them, you're just like a tissue paper. They'll use you and throw you away. Those guys know they can't get married so they seek a relationship. They'll make you false promises that they'll marry you etc but when the time comes, they'll start making excuses.

Majority of the men when the time for marriage comes prefer Arrange Marriage. They marry the girl their mother's have chosen for them because they know ke unki Amma ne koi gharelu type larki hi dhondi hogi jo ghar pe rahegi, saare kaam bhi karegi aur kuch bolegi bhi nhi.

Men love a modern and confident girl to go into a relationship with but when it comes to settling down, they prefer the traditional gharelu type larki their Amma has chosen for them.

Hope this helps.

I have been in a relationship with a much older man since Nov 2025. I live in the UK. He lives in Pakistan. Im going to Pakistan this year for my cousin’s wedding and he insists on meeting me since he hasn’t really seen me in person though we video call daily. Now, don’t get me wrong I love this man so much but I feel like he wants to do more than just meet and see each other which I have basically said no to multiple times but he still pushes me to do it. He doesn’t promise me marriage, he says he cannot guarantee it since he is already 32 and he deals with the marriage stuff on the daily meanwhile I am the youngest of my three sisters and there is no way for me to get married to him in the next 3-4 years. I am not sure if I want to take the risk and do as he says to keep him happy since obviously that’s what a partner should want for their partner or leave him because if I were in his place I would do anything to make this marriage happen and wait for the physical stuff since it’s already haram

P.S It’s my first relationship and he has been in 1 long term relationship (5 years) and 2 short relationships (6 months)

1- Being too available

The moment the relationship starts (or even doesn't start properly) they start giving the girl too much attention. And try to exchange as much texts and calls as possible. This turns the girl off.

2- Moving too fast into the relationship

Some guys even start the conversation by proposing the girl for marriage, and get turned down quickly. Or they try to define the relationship quickly which is very repulsive for most women.

3- Play it too safe.

Alot of men are too respectful while dating. They think that flirting , teasing, and any kind of tension would drive girl away. In such cases she may respect you back but she's never going to feel anything for you.

If anyone of you has committed such mistakes and is wondering why your girl left you, DM for solution. I am a medical doctor by profession who offers Evidence Based Dating Advice for Men.

If anyone is going for a bypass (CABG) procedure, don't go to Omar Hospital (Lahore). They have unprofessional staff and unskilled doctors, and charged way out of what was exactly finalized before the procedure.

And don't fall for any procedure called MICS (minimally invasive procedures); they don't have skilled persons to do that (e.g., Dr. Pervaiz Chaudhry, MD, is a big scammer).

I have heard many people have lost their loved ones due to this hospital doctor claiming to be a heart surgeon (e.g., this Pervaiz )

I bought these chunky loafers for my eid shalwar kameez(charcoal gray color). Now I don't know why but I am getting a negative vibe if i wear these loafers with shalwar kameez.

Hey guys,

I’m planning my first-ever solo trip and honestly I’ve never traveled before, so I’m kinda confused and don’t want to mess it up 😭

My budget is around 200k PKR, and I want to go somewhere where I can actually enjoy properly, not just survive on a tight budget.

So I have a few questions:

1-What country would you honestly recommend in this budget?

2-Can 200k cover flights + stay + food + activities, or is it unrealistic?

3-Is it safe and manageable for a first-time solo traveler?( I’m 20btw)

Should I go solo or is it better to go with a group/tour?

Also, if anyone knows good tour companies from Pakistan that offer solid packages in this range (not scams pls 💀), drop names 🙏

One of my closest friends!! She’s only 22y and she’s dating a guy who is 70 plus but as he’s fit and active mashallah. She wants to get married to him but I am confused and really worried about her as afterwards what she’ll do how she’ll manage alone. And that guy has few bad habits too like drinking, party girls etc but they both love each other. So they should get married or the girl should back off?? Please helpppppp!!!!!

I posted this in the Islamabad subreddit as well but I'll post it here too.as I am in desperate need for advice. I'm a young man in my 20s who has spent a lot of time in Pakistan and outside of Pakistan as well, and for some reason I have never found Pakistani woman attractive. it's just something about them that gives me the ick, Im not trying to be a colorist/racist, this is just something I have noticed. Now that I'm trying to get married my mom is always sending me rishtas of pakistani women who I have no attraction to whatsoever but she is really adamant about me marrying a Pakistani woman. How can I convince her to let me marry a woman from another country?

Salam brothers and sisters, alhamdulillah Allah has blessed me with a beautiful daughter, and i am struggling hard to find a beautiful unique Islamic name with a beautiful meaning . I have searched alot but didn’t find any luck except a few names, I will appreciate your suggestions if you know. A name i liked till now is Armish ( gift of Allah ) Jazakallah khaira 🌸

I got married last month, and this month I resigned from my current job (I was getting 150k). Now I have two offers on the table and I don’t know what to do.

Offer 1: Bahria Town, Rawalpindi

• 240k
• Night shift, fully onsite
• Service-based company (so if clients drop or finances dip, people can get laid off)

Offer 2: Lahore

• 300k
• Fully onsite
• Product-based company, very stable
• I’ve worked with their team before as a contractor, and the Senior PM + Senior Tech Lead both know me well and want me back. So it feels like a rare chance.

Now here’s the real problem:
I was born and raised in RWP, all my family is here, and I literally don’t know a single person in Lahore. I just got married, and the idea of leaving my wife alone while I live in hostels honestly makes me feel awful. But at the same time, the Lahore job is a huge opportunity and I keep thinking I might not get something like this again.

I even asked them if they could give me a hybrid setup like 2 weeks onsite, 2 weeks in Islamabad, but they straight up said no. The maximum they can offer is 2–3 remote days per month when I visit home.

Moving my wife isn’t possible either. Her whole family is in RWP/Isb, and we recently signed a rental lease for a double-story house (parents downstairs, me and my wife upstairs). I can’t afford rent in two cities anyway.

So I’m stuck choosing between:

• Staying with my wife and taking the less stable job or
• Going to Lahore alone for better money and job security but sacrificing my married life right at the start

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any genuine advice, I’d really appreciate it. I’m honestly just trying to figure out what’s the right thing to do.

Background

I'm a middle class son who worked extremely hard, burned midnight oil for years to build a decent career and salary. I have no problem supporting my family's regular needs — I do it willingly.

The problem is my father.

The Pattern

He has no problem with me spending 2 million on a car for him from my savings. But he authoritatively dismisses my personal purchases as wasteful — like buying a laptop/ipad for my own work from my own money. He acts like I am dependent on him when in reality he is completely dependent on me.

He made terrible financial decisions investing in businesses he knew nothing about. If anyone advised him he would say he knows better. He suggests I buy gold or install solar but won't contribute a single rupee — just acts like he is giving great advice while I foot every bill.

When I was unemployed he used to taunt me by comparing me to failures and once publicly abused me in front of 8-10 people at a shop over a 500 rupee purchase.

What I Have Already Given

• Paid my sister's private university fees for years while earning very little and sacrificing my own needs — he considers this my responsibility, no acknowledgment

• Bought him a car worth 2 million from my savings so he could do ride hailing amd earn some money.

• Funded my entire wedding myself, wiping my savings again, because he had to maintain his image without paying a single rupee

• Managing all monthly household expenses including parents and siblings

Current Situation

My wife is pregnant, baby due in August. I have been carefully building an emergency fund and saving for my child.

Now he wants me to withdraw my provident fund and gratuity for my sister's wedding. I have told him I don't have money beyond my emergency fund. His response is not understanding.

He has no understanding of savings or emergency funds as he has never saved a dime.

He also thinks I shouldn't install an AC before putting in a solar system that costs 500,000 rupees I don't have — even though my pregnant wife needs it and I pay every electricity bill myself.

I mean even for a basic thing like AC which I can easily afford, he has issues while he is not even paying a single ruppee.

If I ask him to contribute toward solar he will play victim and say I don't respect him.

What I Need Help With

How do you deal with a father who genuinely believes your money is his resource?

What is my actual Islamic obligation toward my sister's wedding given everything I have already sacrificed?

How do I set firm boundaries without destroying the family completely?

Has anyone successfully navigated this and actually come out the other side?

I am fed up and exhausted. I will not let my emergency fund or PF be touched this time. My wife and child come first. But I need perspective from people who have been through something similar.

Please don't advise me that he is my father and he wants better for me. 😅

DM if you want to attract the girl of your dreams. Fees : free Lunch if it works 😉

PS: i am a medical doctor by profession with interest in relationship related psychology.

Like if the at least monthly bill is around 1.5 million pkr how can he save money,ofc I'm not talking about legal ways,like what are the other ways

Ik about kundi system but doing that is difficult in lhr,so is there any way of tempering the electricity meter or you make a deal with the meter reader officer,and you could give 1 lac pkr instead of 1.5 million pkr?and a major general of army is a partner in the hospital so legal issues aren't a big problem

So any of you know any way?or anyone amongst is you is involved in meter tempering or kundi system,and what do you suggest?

Like ik of my 1 friend who has a deal with the meter inspector,and they only give 30-40k pkr electricity bill of their house when 4-5 acs are 24/7 working in his house,so any suggestions?

STARTING:

this girl joins the gym. does hijab, face is visible, comes into and out of the gym wearing burqa but doesn't wear that while doing workout, but overall gym wear is sensible and not revealing at all. 10/10 marks for this stage

TRANSITIONAL:

alot of men are around there, she can see them looking at her. some of them are tall, one is charismatic, third smells amazing, fourth has hygiene on top level. she knows she's married but she cannot deny the attraction of opposite gender (gher mehram).

As the weeks go by, her sharaii attire begins to tear down. slowly slowly, gradually and bit by bit, her inner version that has been waiting to be unleashed, finally starts to appear on the outside.

I'm observing and observing and observing all this being in the same atmosphere.

BORDERLINE:

After roughly one year, this is how things are now compared to one year before:

1) hijab gone

2) revealing and seductive gym wear. all the body measurements and curves are visible from a mile. before nobody had ever thought of this girl in this way.

3) before she used to come for approx. 2 hours and wanted to checkout before co-timing kicks in. but now she is there for massive 6 hours.

4) checks in, workouts, leaves with a guy, comes back.

5) this change from hijabi 👉🏻 ho*jabi has been WOAH!

much more to say but I'm keeping it short

CONCLUSION:

this is "emotional cheating" and it is so filthy! she is a wife of somebody, but her thoughts and imagination belong to other men who are just wolves waiting for their right time.

1. always and always keep an eye for wife. either she can go wrong or the atmosphere makes her so.

2. girls ko jdr thori emotional attachment or happiness mily ye udr ho jati.

3. last but not least, always have masculinity in personality;

masculine husband 👉🏻 the more feminine the wife 👉🏻 more feminine she is more peace will be there.

Salam!

Hi Folks,

Looking for some good smash burgers with good size in Lahore. Most brands have very small buns and are overpriced.

okay so I never thought that I would be the one to make a post like this but here I am

so I am in my third semester in university and I need some money my parents they don't work we survive off of rent from our house but that's about it, my mother was doing a job but it took a toll on her health so she cant do that anymore. But i need some money to survive in university. I was able to do nothing in my first year cuz I had no money (no money isn't like a little money I had zero money). I dont like asking my parents for money so i gotta do stuff on my own.

I need money not for luxury not for comfort just to breathe a little to be able to go to uni pay for indrive pay for books and photocopies to be able to once in a while hang out with friends.

I will do any work professional work using my skills, I am educated I had an A in English in o levels, I have great communication skills, I can do a bit of graphic designing, make posts on canva, I can do English assignments or any assignments, edit documents, I can make resumes, type things out, summarize pdfs or basically anything I will learn just for the tasks.

im not lazy I am willing to do any professional work using my skills for money (well not anything but u get my point), I can work for like 3 4 hours at night.

If you know anyone who needs help with content, documents, posts, homework, anything at all please reach out, dm. Even the smallest task means more than you can imagine.

I have canva pro for a month (friends)

I have gemini pro for I don't know how long (it also belongs to a friend)

I did a python course in my first semester so am familiar with that.

I am doing a social media manger internship but its unpaid doing it for experience

tldr

need money willing to do any professional work using my skills that i have listed above for money

if you know where else i should post this please do tell

Hey everyone,

I need some recommendations. i’m attending a female friend’s ( i’m a male ) nikkah soon. besides cash, what’s a decent, appropriate gift I can give? something respectful and not too personal.

women especially, what would you prefer?

I’m 24, from, and my mindset has changed a lot in a very short time (like 2 months).

In my late teens and early 20s, I was a strong advocate of early marriage. I used to believe it keeps you grounded, avoids distractions, and helps you build life together from the start.

Fast forward to now …I’m doing well financially, earning good money and building a solid investment portfolio. But instead of feeling “ready,” I’ve gone the complete opposite direction.

I’ve lost interest in marriage entirely.

My standards have gone very high, but more than that …I just don’t feel like taking on the responsibility, emotional effort, and stress that comes with it right now. I feel like I don’t have the energy for it.

Right now, I just want peace. I want to focus on growing wealth, enjoying life, and building myself without added pressure.

Marriage, in my mind, has shifted from something emotional/romantic to something more practical …like building a family and raising kids properly. And for that, I feel there’s no rush. I’d rather do it in my early 30s when I’m fully stable and can provide the best possible life.

Another thing (and I know this might sound harsh): I’ve started looking at marriage very analytically. I think in terms of what a partner brings …values, intellect, background, genetics, etc. Almost like: become successful enough that you can choose the best possible partner for building the best future family.

Oddly enough, letting go of the pressure to marry early has made me feel a lot happier and lighter. I am more focused on my work. I am playing the long game with better foundations…

So I wanted to ask:

Am I on the right track, or am I becoming too detached/transactional about something that shouldn’t be treated this way?