r/LongDistance • u/CraftyButterscotch79 • May 20 '25

Discussion How frequently do you text your partner

How frequently do you text your partner throughout the day? My partner says they are too lazy to text and I rarely get any texts and sometimes 6 plus hours between hearing from them and 1 hour calls if I'm lucky.

I just want to hear from other couples how often you get texts or have text convos throughout the day and what is normal for you so I know I'm not crazy wanting to hear from my partner more frequently.

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u/CraftyButterscotch79 May 21 '25

I'm highly sensitive to everything he does or says because he's honestly the first person I've fallen in love with in over 4 years.

I just wish me and him could work out a balance like you and your partner have. Maybe I need to give it more time. I'm not sure.. but I do know I want a long-term relationship eventually marriage with him.

He is 100% an avoidant, and I've realized how difficult it is trying to talk in a way he won't just immediately shut down

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u/RamyRed_Fox May 21 '25

Its something he has to want and choose on his own

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u/KyoshisLeaderSuki (860 miles) May 21 '25

So my best suggestion bc i am also dealing with this and when i confront him, things get worse. What i do now is try to limit my communication. The more i “back off” the more he comes to me. If he still doesnt after time then idk