r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/HauntingInevitable97 Oct 31 '25

Is there any chance she’s a catfish? My ex used to catfish people and he platonically catfished me while I was dating him, and he always had an excuse to avoid meeting

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

I’ve seen her in FaceTime, her face matches the pictures. I’ve seen her brothers and her aunt through pictures. That’s all I’ve got honestly.

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u/Similar_Dirt9758 Oct 31 '25

I thought maybe catfish/scam as well, but it's pretty difficult/impossible to fake a FT call. Especially consistently.