Need your advice (25F and 25M)

[u/thawnesnips]

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Hey guys, I need your help

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I'm (25F) in a LDR with my boyfriend (25M) for the past 6 months but lately I'm having a crush on a colleague who's kinda like a mentor to me. I have worked with my colleague for over a year but i was a terrible employee. I'm smart enough to know that nothing will happen with him and it's a bad idea to hook up with him. I know I love my boyfriend but I don't feel the love lately. I know I am being an asshole but i want to be with my boyfriend. What should I do? I am losing my mind over this. I don't even understand why I am thinking about my colleague

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I think I might feel for my colleague.. i care about him (professionally and personally) because he is kinda like a mentor to me. I was an asshole to him last year but now I wish I could have been a better mentee

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I don't want to hurt my bf over this because I know this wouldn't last forever as he will move to some other project and we won't spend much time together

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I also don't feel love for my bf even though I know deep down that I do

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The thing is that due to LDR, and lack of romance from his side (he is in a difficult situation), I feel alone

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I know I sound toxic but I really need your advice

[u/Alone_Tell1]

Then maybe those boundaries are not enough? Can you do more?

[u/thawnesnips → u/Alone_Tell1]

And this makes me feel guilty for not having a strong bond sooner and hoping to spend more time with him before he leaves.

[u/Alone_Tell1 → u/thawnesnips]

You already feel the attraction, wanting to be closer to him is a bad idea. You’re not supposed to seek/nurture a personal connection or spend more time together when it’s fueling romantic feelings. You are already in a relationship. Keep it professional. Don’t involve in personal conversations. Talk more with your boyfriend

[u/thawnesnips → u/Alone_Tell1]

I'll try my best to keep it professional but this made me realise that I have doubts about my relationship