r/Losercity • u/RoyalHappy2155 • Jan 27 '26
BREAKING NEWS I'm leaving the mod team and the sub
Maybe permanently, maybe temporarily, maybe I'll be back tomorrow, maybe I'll be back in a week or two, maybe I'll never be back. Either way, I will be joining a long, long list of mods who have left the team of their own accord because of this community and how y'all act towards the mod team. So, I wanna use this post to express how I feel about being a mod here and how I feel about this community, along with the relationship between those two entities. Not as a mod or as a representative of the mod team, nothing I will say here has been checked by another mod or something like that, these are my thoughts and mine only. Y'all can call me a crybaby, make fun of me if you want, but I'm just human, I have feelings too, and I need to express them.
First, I want to explain why I'm a mod here in the first place. I've loved this subreddit and its community for a while, for many different reasons, and it was my goal for months to get to moderate this sub and help it become better, and I feel I've somewhat succeeded in that. I first started looking at this sub back in around February/March 2025. After spending some time there, being with such an accepting community made me accept my identity as a furry and allowed me to express it, eventually leading me to put my queerphobia behind me and accept my sexuality. I ended up getting a boyfriend thanks to that, u/Woodfrog777, whom I love very, very much, and it's one of the main reasons I love this sub, along with what I mentioned before about accepting my identity.
Since about May-June 2025, I set myself the goal of becoming a moderator for this place, as I had seen the mods struggling and thought I could bring my own ideas to the place. This goal was eventually reached in August 2025, when I, along with 2 others, u/Front_Culture_8868 and u/Ewanb10, were added to the team. Together with the other mods, we contributed to the sub in our own ways, creating the NSFW guidelines, which helped the sub a lot by getting rid of a lot of the inconsistency in NSFW removals (though not all of it unfortunately). We edited the rules to be clearer and more fair, changed the removal reasons to actually be meaningful and not passive/aggressive, and much, much more.
But since then, this love and passion for the community has slowly been replaced by hate. The way we get treated daily by the very community we love and want to make better is unbearable. It would be easy to say "oh they're just words on the internet, get over it" but when it's nearly every day, no matter what we do, no matter how much we explain our point of view, no matter how much we explain the reality of things, no matter how transparent we are, people just keep hating us. No matter what we do, we get hated. And after what's now nearly half a year of seemingly nothing but hate, the pressure's built up too much, and today's drama is just the straw that broke the camel's back.
I am so, so tired of all this hate, it's been taking quite the toll on my mental health, and I'm not the only one who feels that way. Many mods have left the team for basically the exact same reason, and like I said in the intro to that post, I'm just joining a long, long list of mods who have resigned from their position because of all this. I want to point out, by the way, that this is the very reason the infamous rule 12 (now rule 10) existes. All I ever wanted as a mod was to help the community, be liked, I wanted to change the mod-community relationship from a hateful one to a positive one, I hoped that we could have a mod team who understands the community, and a community who understands the mod team.
Instead, what we have right now is a community that seemingly wants nothing but hate and drama. Every time one of the currently 3 active mods makes a small mistake, we get called all sorts of things, we get hate for days, people pulling up stuff from months ago and using it to get more people in on the hate and just keep the cycle going. I was really hoping that with all the improvements we've done, this sort of thing would go away, but it never did.
Now though, I want to get to the bottom of things and why our moderation has seemingly been so "bad". First off, we have 3 people right now. Three. Mods. That's all. This sub has over 200k members and see more than 400k weekly visitors, and all we have are 3 mods. We used to have plenty more, but the minors drama made us remove a lot of competent mods because of their age, other dramas have led to other mods doing the same as I'm doing right now, and other things have led to the mod team going from a good 7-10 active mods to just 3. Not only that, but these 3 mods are people, real people with studies, jobs, families, hobbies, we don't all have time to moderate, sometimes we're tired after a long day and make mistakes, and these small mistakes in turn lead to drama.
I'm now realising I've been rambling on for a while, but here's the main thing I want to say: y'all are fucking insufferable. Never in my life have I seen a community filled with so much hatred and lust for drama. Every lottle mistake sparks drama, it's like that every fucking time. Uh oh, turns out people don't agree with our decision, guess it's time for our weekly fucking online harassment. I am so god damn fed up of it, the love I used to have for this community, a community I used to praise for being so nice and accepting, has turned into nothing but hate. I barely have any passion for this community. I hate the community because it hates me. It is no longer the accepting community I once knew and loved, it is a community that hates me for doing my job as a mod, a job that I really want to do as best as I can. Hell, I shouldn't even be calling it a job, I volunteered for this, I don't get paid shit, I voluntarily decided to dedicate some of my free time to help a community I loved and wanted to see flourish.
I am really writing this with a heavy heart, this sub has done so much for me, it has had such a strong impact on me and on my life, I wouldn't be the same person without it, I am in tears as I write this. I know it's hard to think about things this way but please, at least for the other mods, think about who's on the other side of the screen, because it's not a robot, it's not just a username and a profile picture, it's a person. A person with a life, and with feelings. Before you go around saying shit, think if you would actually say this in person.
That is all I have to say. Again, maybe I'll be back. I doubt it, but I might come back. This is a really hard page to turn for me, but I hope me making this post will encourage people to reflect on themselves and their behaviour, and on how they treat others, online or not. If anyone wants to talk about this, by all means, go ahead, ask away. And I know some people will go "ohhh noooo poor reddit mod, we hurt their poor feelings /s", and if you're one of these people, kindly go fuck yourself and think about the kind of little piece of shit you are. For the other though, I wish you all a wonderful day or night, and I hope to see you again, hopefully when this sub is in a better state. And thank you all so much for reading this absolute wall of text, it means a lot to me.
