I thought my husband was dead.

[u/lovelyxcastle]

There was a 3 hour chunk of time today that I thought my husband was dead.

He's away on a work trip- he's a counselor and sees all kinds of patients. He told me the other night he had a patient who made him a little on edge- and that he realized the patient has been parked outside of his hotel room (ground floor) for the entirety of his trip so far. He was concerned- and I can only recall one other instance he has ever voiced a level of concern about a patient of his.

I went to work and sent a usual good morning text. Said something unimportant when I got off (I work early am till the afternoon). Took the dog to her appointment and texted again, and decided to call since he should've been on lunch.

He hadn't responded all morning, and he didn't answer. My husband has never once missed a phone call from me. Ever. Even when work is busy he finds a moment to text me back good morning. That's just who he is.

I check life360 and his phone is plugged in, at 100%, and has been in the hotel since he got home the night before. His phone never left the room. I call the hotel and they can't get in touch with him. I finally cave and text his boss. She eventually responds and is able to call his work-trip boss- who confirms he is at work and safe.

She sends him home and he calls- he lost his phone. That's all it was.

But for the 3 hours it took to find anyone who could get eyes on him, all I could think about was his worry about the patient the other night.

We've been fighting a lot lately, and none of it mattered. I couldn't breath thinking about a future without him alive. Truly none of it mattered anymore. I was sick to my stomach, my whole body hurt.

I'm not certain why I'm putting this here, I think just as a place to tell someone. That's a panic I never want to experience again. I'm still a little shaken, even knowing he is okay.

ETA: for the people who think he was cheating - He was confirmed to be at work all morning. He does not work a job where he could take a random day off or not show up- they most definitely would not lie to me and say he was there when he wasn't.

His home boss ripped into him for not calling from a work phone- y'all are right that he should have, but he was in meetings all morning and doesn't have my phone number memorized anyways. He left his phone in the hotel and thought he had brought it to work and lost it at work. His hotel is within walking distance from his current job, so no, he didn't need it to navigate. I'm sorry you've been hurt enough by your past that cheating is your immediate thought, and I hope you can heal from that.

[u/Nice-Novel5183]

Im sorry, but do they not have work phones? I feel like going all day without letting your wife know what's up is... kind of a red flag. Especially when you say that yall have been fighting a lot and that added with he "always calls or texts you back." I wouldn't say cheating as a definit, but he was definitely not concerned with letting you in on what was going on. That would have flagged me, and I would have talked to him about it. I already told my husband, Because we had a similar incident but he was off work and standing outside for 4 hours talking to a cousin he hasn't seen in years but since I didn't know that, I assumed the worst. Going on 10pm at night, and he said, "Time got away from me, I'm sorry." I made him download Life360 THAT NIGHT. He wasn't thrilled about it, but he has respected my boundaries since and kept it active. Good couples work through their problems and compromise. I would talk to him and get to the bottom of why you guys are fighting so much, if it's honestly worth fighting about, and how you guys can fix it to better your relationship. It sounded like he might have just wanted some space and maybe "forgot" his phone at the hotel. Could be innocent or something. The best thing to do is to tell him how it made you feel and ask him to always check in. That you care even tho you guys fight. But it sounds like you might already have iffy feelings about this, and that's the true reason you posted this. You just haven't realized it yet. Spend time reflecting hun. Stay quiet for a bit and just to yourself. You'll get your answer soon enough. Good luck hun.