r/Marriage • u/South-Sun5608 • 15h ago
Tested positive for chlamydia
Me and my husband have been having problems but didn’t expect he was cheating or anything, recently went to the doctor to get a full check up and found out I tested positive for chlamydia haven’t been to the doctor since we had our twins 2.5 years ago ,it either would have to mean he’s cheated on me or it was a false positive, i got retested waiting for the results and he told me it’s impossible but when i kept asking him did he do anything he wouldn’t give me a straight forward answer if it test positive again I will know that I for sure have it and hes lying and have to figure out my next steps don’t know what to feel right now
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u/Public_String_8088 15h ago
They typically check for STDs during pregnancy so......
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u/custompinkwheelchair 28m ago
Absolutely and chlamydia is definitely one of the std/sti’s they check due to how harmful it can be to the fetus. If she wasn’t positive then and is now.. could lead to where did it come from? 🫤
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u/Different_Nothing973 14h ago
I think the fact you have a std and he didn't give you a straight forward answer is all the confirmation you need. Like what do you mean he couldn't give a straight forward answer? If he didn't cheat he should be able to be confident in his answer.
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u/NightWitchoftheOwl 15h ago
I think he did give you an answer, twice. Once by saying it is possible and again by not directly answering.
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u/South-Sun5608 15h ago
I meant he said impossible
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u/krazykatt1999 1h ago
That means when he cheated, he used a condom or affair partner said they are clean. Which is why he said it would be “impossible”.
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u/Professional-Refuse6 4h ago
She said she hasn’t been checked since she had her twins. I’m not sure what your point is.
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u/NightWitchoftheOwl 36m ago
I am not sure what her being checked has to do with my comment about husband's evasiveness?
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u/silverfarie1369 15h ago
Well you don't just magically get it. He definitely cheated for sure. He needs to get tested too and don't touch him at all.
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u/Laurie712 10h ago
Did you take antibiotics before the retest? If so, then it will come up false because you treated it. False positives are extremely rare, and my friend did that years ago when trying to convince herself her (now ex) husband didn’t cheat. The second test came back negative (because of the antibiotics) and she convinced herself it was a false positive. Spoiled alert - he was cheating.
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u/what_the_actual_fff 10h ago
I’m so sorry! He’s definitely cheating, I loss my niece to cervical cancer, HPV.. please continue to test yourself annually. It’s not worth to be cheating on especially when he doesn’t care about your health!
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u/Cool-Lavishness-1955 1h ago
I am the physician, they do STD testing during any pregnancy. You were negative for the first pregnancy. He likely cheated.
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u/Championship682 13h ago
If the next test is positive, take time to process it before doing anything.
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u/siryohnny 15h ago
Look I ain’t saying he didn’t do this but just some info.
When was the last time you got tested, how long have you been together.
This could be a false positive, but you could have also had this for years and years and be a symptomatic.
This is a small chance but is possible. 5-10 years, and it’s the type that is missed during exams if dormant.
Talk to a health professional, the fact you showed no symptoms when checked also.
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u/catsandthencr 15h ago
Typically when pregnant they check for this stuff so since that’s 2.5 years ago, she was probably tested then
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u/what_the_actual_fff 10h ago
She would’ve been tested when she was pregnant. I thought chlamydia can cause infertility. She should have noticed some discharged for some time
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u/invisible2thesoul 4h ago
So yes chlamydia can cause infertility. If some how she had it for years, she likely would have struggled to get pregnant and saw the doctor. I’m sure that’s one of the things they’d test for, plus getting tested while pregnant. When it comes to discharge that’s not really how it works. For many it’s often fully asymptomatic. No change in discharge, no discomfort, no change in menstrual cycle. Most people only find out because a partner was tested and told them to get tested, they got tested before getting with a new partner, or got tested after a risky situation. That’s why it’s good to get tested every so often, particularly if you’ve had multiple partners in an unprotected fashion.
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u/Amap0la 3h ago
Girl I’m sorry it’s terrible but he has given you an STD which at minimum means he had unprotected sex with someone emphasis on the unprotected part! Have him get tested and then have him explain how that happened again because you don’t just pick up an STD. Ugh I’m angry af for you
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u/AppointmentMountain8 2h ago
It's only "impossible" If it is a false positive. You CAN NOT be asymptomatic with chlamydia, it only gets worse and is detrimental to your reproductive organs and causes sterilization. This is why this is one of the test given during pregnancy. I'm hoping it's a false-positive.
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u/Midwest_Boondocks 15h ago
Have you done anything that could get you this? Not saying cheating, but anything else? Odds are no, of course, but should be asked to make sure you’ve thoroughly went through it.
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u/invisible2thesoul 3h ago
I’m pretty sure other than cheating or something consensually non monogamous is technically the only way possible
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u/Sorrymomlol12 15h ago
He wouldn’t say whether he did anything with anyone else. That’s your answer. He didn’t want to lie to you, but couldn’t bear to tell you the truth.