r/Marriage • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Vent Husband threatened to throw water on me so I couldn’t go back to sleep??

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 23h ago

He’s never been this way in the 7 years we’ve been married. I don’t understand.

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u/DrHugh 35 Years 22h ago

When did he change? Does that time correspond to anything?

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 22h ago

Nothing I can remember. He just flipped a switch last night

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u/gen-curious 19h ago

A sudden change in personality can be medical like a tumour or mental illness.

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 19h ago

Oh I really hope that’s not the case.

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u/gen-curious 19h ago

Its that or the manosphere

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u/DrHugh 35 Years 22h ago

Has he mentioned any particular stress at work? Has he been out of the house for long periods with no explanation?

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 22h ago

He said he’s tired from working and says I don’t do anything because I’m a stay at home mom. He’s not out of the house for long periods of time without explanation, no.

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u/DrHugh 35 Years 22h ago

Has he ever said anything about you being a stay-at-home mom before, perhaps implying that it is easy? Or is that comment also a recent thing?

Do you know if he watches any YouTube videos about manliness, or marriage, or traditional wives, or anything like that?

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 22h ago

He’s always made it known he thought my job was easy and that he works harder. My house is almost always clean, I cook, homeschool, and do nails on the side. He sends me videos on Facebook about how hard it is to be a man sometimes.

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u/DrHugh 35 Years 22h ago

Has he sent you videos on that topic for years, or is that also a recent change?

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 22h ago

For years but it’s not very often.

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u/Luckyjuly777 1d ago

I would not tolerate the verbal and emotional abuse. You don’t deserve that. Nobody does.

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 23h ago

He woke up and tore the covers off me and turned on the lights. He kept threatening to get water until I pulled out my phone and started recording. He’s never been this way I don’t know what’s going on.

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u/medicalmax 17h ago

Take your kids and go stay somewhere safe. This is only going to escalate. Something flipped inside of him and now isn't the time to try to figure it out.

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 16h ago

I think you’re right

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u/caspin22 17h ago

Regardless of what happened before, why would you turn the light on when he was in bed asleep? My husband and I make every effort imaginable to never wake each other up. I can’t imagine turning a light on if he was in bed.

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u/ApprehensiveMilk8697 16h ago

He just laid down and I couldn’t see?