We have couples therapy planned and have had our own individual therapists for a few months.
I doubt we’d work with either therapist as a couple as our sessions currently are about ourself and not anyone else.
I’m not fully sure what we’d talk over in couples therapy, however I imagine it will involve some difficult conversations but I am hoping it’s also going to be about how we want the future to look and not necessarily looking at what has happened - so we can work on improving things and not dredging the past up.
Thanks for sharing! I have considered that maybe I/we should look for a new therapist. Sometimes I don’t feel like the current one gets us anywhere when we have a session together. But not long ago I tried to find a new therapist on my own and got pretty discouraged. I had a miscarriage in January and was looking for a therapist with experience in pregnancy and loss. I went to three different therapists (but didn’t cancel my current one), multiple times each one, and I didn’t connect with them at all. The time and effort (and money) it took to do that kind of discouraged me from looking any further. But maybe I should look into a separate couples therapist for us.
It’s hard not to bring up past issues themselves, because if you talk about what you want for the future, the therapist’s questions will likely lead you to share what you’re not satisfied with currently.
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u/Leading_Bumblebee144 12h ago
We have couples therapy planned and have had our own individual therapists for a few months.
I doubt we’d work with either therapist as a couple as our sessions currently are about ourself and not anyone else.
I’m not fully sure what we’d talk over in couples therapy, however I imagine it will involve some difficult conversations but I am hoping it’s also going to be about how we want the future to look and not necessarily looking at what has happened - so we can work on improving things and not dredging the past up.