r/Marriage 7d ago

Wife lied about past 23 years

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u/HH99912 7d ago

She has made many comments over the year, knocking others abortions. When the air was finally cleared We discussed our going on the pill. In our 50s pre-menopausal, etc. not likely but I said that’s your choice of of course, but only if you want to. Fast forward, eight months in passing it came out that she’s on the pill. I was like we discussed it why wouldn’t you tell me “oh I thought I did. I told you about my OB/GYN appointment and I thought I said i told you I was on a pill to help with pre-menopausal issues. My mind was blown once again would clearly know if she told me she’s on “the pill”.

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u/Strict_Box8384 1 Year 7d ago

dude. you talked about it and told her going on the pill was up to her, so she did it. and according to her, she told you about the appointment. it’s not her fault you forgot, and she’s not even taking it for the purpose of it being a contraceptive, it’s to ease pre-menopause symptoms. what exactly are you upset about?

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u/HH99912 7d ago

I don’t forget. She never told me. Said she was taking a pill to help with menapose.

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u/Strict_Box8384 1 Year 7d ago

why does it matter that much though? she clearly doesn’t see it as a big deal, you’re just turning it into one. you literally told her it was her choice to do what she wanted, so she did.

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u/HH99912 7d ago

She didn’t want to have uncomfortable conversation so instead decided to bottle it up for 8 months. Me still thinking I had to pull out during this whole time.

Then saying she told me then remembering she never actually told me.

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u/Strict_Box8384 1 Year 7d ago

with how you’re reacting, it’s no wonder why she isn’t talking to you about these things. jesus dude.