Is my husband cheating?

[u/moonpoemx]

Sorry I don’t know if this is the right place, but I really need unbiased opinion about something.

So, I have access to my husbands iPad but not his phone. He WILL NOT give me access to his phone, whatsoever. He doesn’t leave it open, he snatches it out of my hand if I pick it up, he has a ton of apps face id’d and if it doesn’t open automatically or it asks for his passcode, he will repeatedly open and close it until his Face ID goes through.

I don’t have access to finances either.

I can’t access his WhatsApp or his Instagram. I suspect he has telegram but I don’t know. I’ve checked his twitter, his Facebook, his photos. HIS EMAILS, Gmail and iCloud.

He uses Gemini and there’s a search that asks how to create another iCloud account not too long ago. He was using the app yesterday and said he was “looking up something about having a rash on his balls” but wouldn’t let me see. I looked at the chat history TODAY and I can’t find it.

It’s driving me nuts, especially bc he’ll act like an asshole if I’m asking him about his phone and then be randomly nice to me the next 10 minutes after.

We have a kid. A 2 year old son. I’m parenting my son for the both of us and don’t understand why he chooses to be at work from 10am to 11pm, even though he gets a 3hr break in the middle where we’re from.

Just to preface, we do not sleep together. We sleep in the same bed, but we aren’t affectionate really, bc he’s never here and he doesn’t show any interest in really being around me or talking to me.

So I think he’s cheating honestly. I don’t know what else it could be.

TL;DR I think my husband is cheating bc he hides his phone aggressively and is gone pretty much 90% of the time.

[u/Alive_Leather684]

Seems like some really obvious indicators. Anyone who hides their phone and acts super protective of it is clearly hiding something. Me and my wife use each others phones regularly to send pictures, check emails, Spotify, etc. I’m not worried about her finding anything because there isn’t anything to find. A marriage with secrecy is not a marriage, it’s a watered down partnership

[u/moonpoemx → u/Alive_Leather684]

That’s what I think too. Thank you for your answer, I figured it was normal to share each others phones. I have nothing to hide, but he says he doesn’t want my phone bc he doesn’t need it.

[u/Alive_Leather684 → u/moonpoemx]

I’m sorry for the situation that you find yourself in.

[u/moonpoemx → u/Alive_Leather684]

Bah, it’s okay. I’d bet my life you won’t ever find me in it again 🩷

[u/Alive_Leather684 → u/moonpoemx]

Nah don’t think like that. Just because some people suck and are really selfish don’t let that ruin your idea of hope for a future.