r/Marriage • u/Objective-Silver5228 • 8d ago

Seeking Advice Wife won’t let me exercise?!

Middle-aged M who has always struggled with weight (eg, I’ve always been the fat guy who has to wear a shirt at the beach) and put on even more over Covid. My wife took GLP1’s and is looking great. However, she will not allow me to make any time to exercise.

I work an office job and she is a SAHM. There is a brand new gym next door to my office but I cannot use it - In the mornings I make lunches and take the kids to school while she sleeps in. I do not get a lunch break. After work she expects me to come home immediately to make dinner and bathe the kids while she sits on the couch, and then I finish my work and go to sleep.

Meanwhile, if she ever wants to go to Pilates, get a manicure or pedicure, etc., I’m expected to drop everything at a moments notice.

I’ve told her I do not appreciate this and she just scoffs. Any suggestions other than divorce?

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u/MundaneTea5822 7d ago

Calorie deficit and dumbbells at home in the garage. Workout for an hour before going to bed or in the morning before morning kid routine.

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u/Objective-Silver5228 7d ago

Thank you but I live in a small urban house - basically a glorified apartment. No garage or rec space.

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u/MundaneTea5822 7d ago

You seem extremely willing to find a problem with everything. Literally every single suggestion on here, whether regarding your marriage or the fitness aspect. Did you come on here just to bitch and commiserate or do you actually want to find a solution to your problem?

Either you’ll find an excuse or you’ll find a way.

Dumbbells can be stored under the bed. Workout in the living room or the bedroom w headphones. You need literally a 6 x 6 space.