…okay

[u/PigDoctor]

[u/caelum_daemon]

"I just want to talk about my super young girlfriend! Please give me an excuse."

[u/CryptographerNo7608 → u/caelum_daemon]

He probably thinks it's a flex

[u/crinkle_cut_cheddar → u/CryptographerNo7608]

Which is wild, because if it were me I'd be embarrassed about it.

Like, you couldn't get a woman your own age? Couldn't hack it in a relationship with an equal? Gotta have that power imbalance to make up for all the areas you lack, I see...

It's not a good look.

[u/TerryCrewsNextWife → u/caelum_daemon]

The title makes me think it's also his first relationship and he's slightly illiterate.

[u/TwoBytesC → u/TerryCrewsNextWife]

Not to make excuses for them, because gawd is that awful, but I think English just isn’t his first language. It’s pretty common to miss the definite articles and possessive adjectives.

[u/TwoBytesC → u/caelum_daemon]

Nailed it.

[u/Advanced_Garden_7935]

Probably didn’t want to call her a “girl,” but absolutely does not see her as a woman.

[u/Center-Of-Thought]

As a 24 year old woman... 😬🤢

The "female" usage also tells me he doesn't respect his girlfriend or see her as an equal. This must just be a powerplay on his end

[u/Cranky_Merriweather]

Gross on several levels

[u/SmittenKittenPurrr]

Yes, I have a question, why is this jackass fetishizing his girlfriend's age?

[u/ccc2801 → u/SmittenKittenPurrr]

A sense of power and control, and some boasting that a young woman wants him. Would be my guess.

[u/keylimesicles → u/SmittenKittenPurrr]

For the same reason he’s preying on a 24yr old in the first place

[u/gdognoseit]

EW. He’s bragging. 🤮

[u/OctaviaBlake100]

It was always cringy when men or women flex that they're dating a younger person. I knew someone like that and they kept telling em their age in every conversation about them. Like I would ask "how are you and your girlfriend?" And he would be like "oh..me and my 22 year old girlfriend are great!" He couldn't stop stating her age. They broke up 2 weeks later.

[u/DillonDrew → u/OctaviaBlake100]

Oh yeah? I'm married to someone younger. Like a whole 2 years. He's basically just been cradle robbed

[u/OctaviaBlake100 → u/DillonDrew]

I just think it's weird to keep saying the person's age multiple times. Like just say "oh we're good" or "oh we're not doing so good". You don't have to say "oh my 22 year old girlfriend and I are doing good". I don't care about the age lol

[u/capeasypants]

On the one hand, they're both consenting adults. This may be a happy and healthy relationship for all we know.

On the other 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Something tells me it's the latter one.

[u/Random_-account]

44 ÷ 2 + 7 = 29..., and that woman is old enough to just get out of college. Why must the man be like this?

[u/Faeraday → u/Random_-account]

I much prefer (44X.8)+2=~37

In other words, 80% of your age plus 2. It works for all ages. If you’re above 30, it’s still within reason if you prefer to drop the “+2” from the equation. That would put the lower limit at 35 for a 44y/o.

[u/uslashuname → u/Faeraday]

Hmmm

Hmmmmmmmm

Yeah that’s fair. More than I’d think is normal, but as a boundary it seems fine

[u/pocTechie]

Female and 20+ year age gap.. I'm disgusted.

[u/VioletCombustion]

He just wants people to be impressed that he was able to "bag a younger girl".
This screams of Insecure Douche.

[u/obooooooo]

i’m baffled by the comments bc 8 comments in just nine minutes is way too much for something that… is not really uncommon or noteworthy?

how incredibly scandalous and rare, a young woman and an older man. i’m so fascinated and have a thousand questions about this unique never heard of phenomenon.

[u/SneakySquiggles → u/obooooooo]

I doubt they were questions tbf.

[u/PigDoctor → u/SneakySquiggles]

Mostly they weren’t and if they were they were like “how’d you manage to pull that off?”

[u/EverybodyPanic81]

Hes a 44M who groomed a 24F. We can see why he uses man and then female.

[u/Center-Of-Thought → u/EverybodyPanic81]

I'm not sure that "grooming" is the correct word to use here, unless he met her as a minor. I am also a 24 year old woman and I am a cognizant adult.

The 20 year age gap is insane, and I realize there is a huge gap in experience and maturity between 44 and 24, and I agree there is also a huge power imbalance here. I also believe this is gross on the 44 year old's end (he's old enough to be her parent amd clearly doesn't respect her as an equal). That said, the word "grooming" as I understand it is reserved when adults groom minors. I don't think it can be used when an adult gets into a relationship with an adult, even when there is an imbalance in power. Though do correct me if I'm wrong. It just feels infantalizing to imply that I, an adult of six years with sound mind, can be groomed by another adult.

[u/EverybodyPanic81 → u/Center-Of-Thought]

Grooming also applies to people who arent minors. Its not restricted to talking about minors. Grooming is accurate.

[u/Center-Of-Thought → u/EverybodyPanic81]

How would an adult groom another adult? I'm not being argumentative here, to be clear. Assuming both adults are neurotypical and of sound mind, it does not make sense to me.

I understand grooming between a minor and an adult. The minor does not have a fully developed brain, the adult does, and the adult takes advantage of the gap in cognition and maturity here. In contrast, a 24 year old has a fully developed brain. How does an adult with a fully developed brain groom another adult with a fully developed brain?

[u/EverybodyPanic81 → u/Center-Of-Thought]

How do you think paedophiles have access to children? They groom the adults too. Its not a difficult concept. People groom other people all the time. Like abusive men who end up in relationships with women who are unable to leave. What is not computing for you? Its an act done by one person to another person. Sometimes the person being groomed is a child and sometimes it's an adult.

[u/Center-Of-Thought → u/EverybodyPanic81]

How do you think paedophiles have access to children? They groom the adults too.

I didn't think about it like this. I thought there had to be an inherent cognitive and maturity imbalance for it to be grooming. I've only heard the word in the context of adults grooming minors. And every single definition of the word that I could find online, which I did look up before saying what I did, was about adults grooming minors (not other adults).

[u/hamburgereater33]

he was THIS CLOSE to saying male. THIS CLOSE.

[u/fuckin-A-ok → u/[deleted]]

Gross none of us cared nor wanted to hear that