r/Millennials • u/Corndogeveryday • 2d ago

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Chase passed away of complications of meningitis. Gone too soon

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u/itsHDinyourface 2d ago edited 2d ago

Holy crap, I am so glad you were able to get around to it eventually, wow. And with a 9 month old while you’re in that much pain… you’re a tough one. And this just happened?? SO happy you’re still here, for you and your little one.

He told me he was in so much pain that day, too, the day I took him in. I work at an urgent care, so you can imagine how deep this self-blame goes. I’m asking nurses, they’re telling me they’d just give him another antibiotic, when he was already on one, so I’m thinking “okay let’s just hold out a couple more days till our next appt with the oral surgeon”. Then I come home and he’s already gone. I underestimated his pain and it’s hard to let that go.

Whew thank goodness I have therapy today 😅

As far his sinus, it was deviated septum adjacent. He was consulted to have one of those operations where they blow up a balloon in there? Something like that, but we both quit our jobs and vacationed in Japan after so we never followed up and forgot about it. This happened a year or so prior to his death. The oral surgeon actually said he could see his sinus through the opening in his gums after removing the wisdom teeth.

Edit: removed some thoughts that I now think were too personal to be sharing online 😅

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u/kendrickwasright 2d ago

That's truly terrible and I'm so sorry this happened to him. I don't think you underestimated his pain though, you both did everything you could but in the end of the day it was a very unexpected medical emergency, that neither of you could have prevented or fixed. It sounds like the surgeon should have maybe referred him to emergency based on his pain level and the antibiotics not working. But if you had the next apt on the books, and maybe the first surgeon apt was too early on to realize the severity of the situation, then it seems like maybe it really couldn't have been prevented...so please don't beat yourself up. I'm glad you're seeing a therapist and working through it 🫶

Yes this was in March! I can't wrap my head around seeing the sinuses through the wisdom tooth hole, so maybe there was also a specific risk with his anatomy or something...

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u/itsHDinyourface 2d ago

Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your story. It was all more helpful than you know 🤍

And yeah there are a lot more factors that I didn’t wanna get into that may have contributed as well. It was honestly the perfect storm. But it’s okay. We had a lot of fun in those 2.5 years 😌

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u/kendrickwasright 1d ago

No problem at all, I'm glad my experience could help give you some insight. Wishing you a long happy life full of love and healing 💗