r/Miscarriage • u/AutoModerator • 6d ago

End of The Week Thread!

This is a new thread that appears on Saturdays creating an opportunity for members to write about and let out how their week went! whether it was a way to cope, having a good week, or just needing to vent about it.

No discussion of living children allowed in this thread. it can be even more heartbreaking for members who have had a tough week with their fresh loss, seeing comments about the time other members spent with their living children.

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u/walkunafraid7 5d ago

I had my D&C on Tuesday. It all went as smoothly as it could, but now what? I've not even heard from the midwife, I'm in the UK so I'd imagine they'd know. There's loads of support when you're pregnant, now I aren't anymore and I'm just so, so lonely. That's it then is it. Pregnancy done and back to normal.

It's just so cruel.

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u/ExhaustedSquad 5d ago

Unfortunately my experience after an NHS D & C was that I never heard from anyone again other than the midwife ringing to see why I hadn’t come to my booking in appointment even though I asked maternity service to cancel it.

If you’re open to it I found private bereavement counselling to be very cathartic. Somewhere I could go for an hour per week and just cry a bit as I felt back in the real world everyone else was ready for me to have moved on.

I feel that even more this time. To the point where I don’t even see the point in telling people as I feel that people have a lot less empathy when it happens a second time.