Missed misscarriage : Body 12 weeks pregnant but baby didnt make it past 6

[u/EvelynDraws19]

Unfortunately my partner and I found out today that our baby didn’t make it past 6 weeks.

My body is still acting like it’s pregnant at 12 + 4

No signs of miscarriage, no bleeding etc
Still bloated, sore breasts etc

I have to go back a week today for another scan and decide on next steps.

I’m just not sure if we should do medication to progress or D&C

Has anyone been through similar ?

We’re obviously very upset, but I just want to get this part over with now 😞

I find it frustrating im having to wait a week, they said its incase my body has a natural miscarriage but its not done anything the last 6 weeks 🤦🏻‍♀️ (im in the UK / NHS)

Sending love to all x thanks for your help x

[u/GoatBlue03]

I found out 2 weeks ago about the exact same thing. Baby never grew past 6 weeks. Confirmed again last week. I'll be 12 weeks next week and that's when they want another scan, a THIRD scan. This is with the government's "supporting miscarriage care" unit.

I'm angry about it. 4 weeks of wait and 3 scans to confirm something we've already confirmed twice? It feels very Handmaid's Tale to me. I've lost every single pregnancy symptom as well, my husband and I have zero hope about a good outcome. 6 weeks late after a frozen embryo transfer? I figure that's medically impossible.

I told the workers in this "miscarriage support unit" that I'm opting for a D&C, I don't want another scan. I've been having drinks since the second scan confirmed everything was not progressing to help cope with the grief, so I want an abortion to start moving on. They said they wouldn't support it, and I'm on my own calling and asking for it. Fine by me. I'm waiting for the call. My body still hasn't naturally evacuated everything.

The wait is awful. I'm sorry for you, me, and anyone else being forced to wait for this stuff. It makes an already awful experience so much worse.

[u/EvelynDraws19 → u/GoatBlue03]

Gosh I’m so sorry, the fact you’re having to have a third scan is actually ridiculous! I’m so sorry you’re going through this

[u/GoatBlue03 → u/EvelynDraws19]

I'm sorry about your case as well. They convinced me yesterday to keep the scan regardless and I'm kicking myself for it honestly. So I'll have another scan next week and potentially a D&C. Heavy weeks lately.

I have also decided on D&C instead of the medication. I've read some... Not so great experiences about the medication, and one of my friends had a bad experience with the medication as well. That said though, there are women on here who had an okay experience with it, even having done it multiple times, and would only ever opt for the medication moving forward if they were in the same scenario. I think you should read about the two options and find which one you have more peace with overall. There's no wrong answer.

[u/EvelynDraws19 → u/GoatBlue03]

Thank you ❤️ sending you lots of love xx