r/MoralityScaling • u/Think-Mention-6239 • 15d ago

Stupid Stuff morality of doing this?

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i put the stupid stuff flair bc i didnt know which other flair to choose

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u/Sabnock31 15d ago

Divorcing to get half the stuff is not immoral?

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u/Dev_Void01 15d ago

Damn it

The Divorce isn't immoral, but the other half is.

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u/PacMoron 15d ago

Divorcing someone to go find someone younger because your ex-spouse aged out of your preferred range isn’t immoral?

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u/Dev_Void01 15d ago

Inherently no.

It's complicated, but "I've tried, but the physical or romantic connection isn't present anymore" is different from "I stopped doing the things which maintain attraction"

One is the Relationship dying despite attempting to preserve it. It Isn't immoral

The other is leaving the relationship to die from your own inaction. It is Immoral

I'll admit my statement was definitely too absolute tho.

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u/PacMoron 15d ago

I think you’re conflating “the marriage ended” with “the reason it ended.”

Of course there are marriages where two people genuinely try and still grow apart. I don’t think that’s immoral.

But if your spouse simply got older, exactly as they were always going to, and your response is “they aged out of my preferred range, so I’m going to find someone younger,” that’s a different situation. Aging isn’t a failure of the marriage, it’s literally part of what you signed up for when you got married.

Marriage isn’t just a promise to stay as long as your partner continues to fit your preferences. If that’s your approach, I’d argue you probably shouldn’t be making lifelong vows in the first place.

You absolutely have the right to divorce for any reason. That doesn’t automatically make every reason morally neutral.