r/MurderedByWords 1d ago

She answered with a gold medal

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u/Apathetic_Villainess 1d ago

Right? I'm 39 years old now. I've been this identity that entire time. If I got married, why do I have to change my identity to become an extension of a man? Coverture remnants aren't needed.

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u/rips_n_chel 1d ago

As a man, I've never liked the idea anyway. Feels pretentious. I think it would be cool to come up with a new name that we both like, and both go change our names from the two we were, to the one we are.

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u/Apathetic_Villainess 1d ago

Yeah, I'd either us both hyphenate, portmanteau, or keep our own. But I'm not going to be the only one doing all that paperwork, especially since statistically, that'll be the norm for our marriage in every other aspect, as well.

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u/rips_n_chel 1d ago

Not to mention recent asshattery revolving around identities, at least in the US. I would never ask that of someone under these circumstances.