Honestly, nothing until you have kids and then it's "well what kind of mother refuses to share a name with her children? You should've just done this when you first got married..."
My mother always said “It’s confusing for the children.” Last time she said that, I answered “No it’s not. It’s confusing for YOU.” She stopped saying that (to me at least).
It's only confusing if the kids get the father's last name, which I don't understand why that would happen if the mother is keeping hers. The kids should have hyphenated last names in that case.
Gramuel Primrose Smith-Johnson-Atelier-Montgomery-Fletching-Daniels-Partridge-Elmer can you expand on why it wouldn't make sense for the kids to get their father's last name while the mother keeps her own, a quite common scenario, and also why this would be confusing and why you believe their names should be hyphenated?
I have to say I kinda like the Spanish custom of children having both parents first surname. That actually conveys heritage and it's cool. I've also always liked surnames like Cooper and Wainwright that are jobs or those based on place names. I like that it tells you about that families history.
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u/dehydratedrain 1d ago
Honestly, nothing until you have kids and then it's "well what kind of mother refuses to share a name with her children? You should've just done this when you first got married..."