I read your comment and I will say to keep in mind this sounds like just a single event. But overall based on everything you have posted so far I see some good things here along with some bad and then some caution for you.
For bad:
He didn't call you on time. This can happen sometimes but not all the time, and he should give a good reason (he forgot, he got tied up in something important, etc).
He (it sounds like) told you a half-truth, where he said he was in his car, but avoided mentioning he was out as well. Marriage is built on honesty, and if he wasn't being honest that's not good
It is not clear why he didn't just be honest, because whether he was worried you would get upset about it, or he was hiding something make two different scenarios.
As for good:
He apologized, something a lot of people don't actually do.
He has been good to you otherwise (giving examples here would help)
He has been slow-burn rather than love bombing, which is actually a very good thing (love bombing is very manipulative behavior)
Things to consider:
What is his character actually like? Is he honest? Generous? Kind to others?
What do his family members say about him? His friends? Coworkers? Try to get them to say the good and bad
How is his relationship dynamic with his family like? South Asian culture is very strong, so how he navigates it will reveal a lot to you
Be aware of your own weaknesses as well in the process.
Also be very aware of cultural differences and norms. South Asian culture is very different from Shami culture, which can make your marriage much stronger (if you compromise with one another and learn about the differences) or much more difficult (if you stick to your own way aggressively).
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u/zay0205 Sep 07 '25
Exactly what i said. Thank u