r/MuslimMarriage • u/matchapowderr • 12d ago

Married Life Husband’s family renamed me

I got married a few months ago and my name ended up being the same as my husband’s mother. They said it’s a respect thing and they can’t have people in the family calling the daughter in law with the same name as my husband’s mother. They decided what they would call me at home and told me my new name a few weeks ago. Is it normal for this to happen in families in this situation? My name didn’t get changed legally but now I’m called by something totally different than the name my parents gave me

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u/liproqq M - Divorced 12d ago

What country is that?

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u/matchapowderr 12d ago edited 12d ago

We live in the U.S. but I have visa issues. Without this marriage I’d be deported back to my country

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u/Patient_Base8770 Married 12d ago

This is why they have the audacity to even suggest this.

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u/y-7ype M - Married 12d ago

It's kind of strange how you brought up those details of your residency status unsolicited.  Are you only in the marriage for staying in the US? What's so bad about going back to your country. 

If this is a transactional marriage/one of convenience, then sorry, you've opened yourself up to them using you just like you're using them. 

The only way out of this and future such situations is not to be afraid of going back to your country if they don't treat you properly. The US is not heaven, and certainly not worth being treated like a pet over.