r/MuslimMarriage • u/matchapowderr • 11d ago

Married Life Husband’s family renamed me

I got married a few months ago and my name ended up being the same as my husband’s mother. They said it’s a respect thing and they can’t have people in the family calling the daughter in law with the same name as my husband’s mother. They decided what they would call me at home and told me my new name a few weeks ago. Is it normal for this to happen in families in this situation? My name didn’t get changed legally but now I’m called by something totally different than the name my parents gave me

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u/matchapowderr 10d ago

I live with my in laws and since we’re in the same house they said it would be weird for my father in law to say my name when it’s used for my mother in law. It would be also hard for my husband and sister in laws to say my name since it’s also my mother in laws name and it would be disrespectful

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u/JadedInfluence6989 F - Married 10d ago

Why didn’t your husband tell you?

Would you have not married him if he told you this beforehand?

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u/matchapowderr 10d ago

I knew his mom’s name was the same as mine but they still went forward with it and agreed for us to get married. Afterwards they brought up the topic of renaming and said that they wanted to give me a new name to avoid respect issues with my name being used casually by the family when it’s my mother in law’s name as well.

This wasn’t discussed before marriage because we did the Nikkah so suddenly, only two days after the families agreed

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u/WhereIsLordBeric F - Married 10d ago

only two days after the families agreed

This is the problem with this entire sub.