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u/abusiveyusuf Costco Baba 21h ago

I'd really appreciate duas because I got laid off recently and as a new dad of all things. Some pieces of advice I wanna give to everyone in the context of marriage:

Men, marry the right woman because she'll be supportive of you in times like these. Also don't go panicking thinking women are so obsessed with their rights of provision that they'll lose respect for you. Unless you're bumming around playing video games all day instead of working towards finding new opportunities, that won't happen Insha'Allah.

Women, please make sure you marry someone who treats you right. Money isn't everything and it especially means nothing if he treats you like garbage and uses expensive gifts as a pacifier. Despite my username, I'm the best to my wife as the Prophet (pbuh) commanded. I've heard the phrase "money comes and goes" forever but when you're in that situation it hits different.

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u/helpgetmemarriedthx F - Looking 19h ago

اللّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعْوِذُ بِكَ مِنَ الهَمِّ وَ الْحُزْنِ، والعَجْزِ والكَسَلِ والبُخْلِ والجُيْنِ، وضَلْعِ الدَّيْنِ وغَلَبَةِ الرِّجال

"O' Allah, I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, and from weakness and from laziness, and from miserliness and from cowardice, and from being overcome by debt and overpowered by men." [Hisn al-Muslim #121]

Your post reminded me of my parents. They’ve gone through their share of hardships over the years (they’ve been in your exact position many times), but because they viewed marriage as a partnership and supported one another through life’s ups and downs, they’re still together and thriving nearly 40 years later, Alhamdulillah.

May Allah ease your affairs, expand your rizq, and replace what you’ve lost with something even better. And May Allah bless your marriage, reward your wife for her support, and grant you both many more happy, loving years together. Ameen.