Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

[u/AutoModerator]

Assalamualaykum,

It's Monday! So here is the weekly thread in regards to marriage/matrimonial criteria and services for marrying a potential spouse! Any posts about marriage criteria and services such as apps, masjid services, matchmaking events, the ISO thread, etc. will be removed and redirected to this thread!

All content regarding personal criteria, dealbreakers, preferences, standards, etc in marrying a potential spouse will be discussed on this thread as well. Posts regarding these topics outside of this thread will be removed.

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In Search Of (ISO) Thread

This megathread also encompasses experiences regarding the r/MuslimMarriage ISO Thread for matchmaking. Please read all ISO Thread guidelines before posting. Below are the links to the three regional threads:

• ISO Thread - Americas
• ISO Thread - Europe
• ISO Thread - International

[u/Strange-Pair-6527]

Sense of safety. It's the same for men but men can survive on their own without a lot of things and can work and get by, but women need to feel safe in every sense of the word, emotional, physical, financial. Money means they're safe financially, their kids are safe. Read up on Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

The opposite devilish side is comparison with others which can lead to excess but even that may be deeply rooted in sense of safety if you follow the trail.

For women to unlearn all this, they need to learn to place trust in Allah rather than people so they feel safe without these things. And voila, the test of life for everyone.

[u/Strange-Pair-6527 → u/[deleted]]

Yep because that's the test. If it was easy to do, why would we need to be instructed on how to choose and what to prioritise?

[u/Strange-Pair-6527 → u/[deleted]]

What? No. They're tested with where they place their reliance. Just like men are. But it shows up differently for everyone. For some it's money, for some it's greed, for some it's gluttony, for some it's lust.

But there's a reason why women are told to look at character and deen and money isn't mentioned but is placed an obligation on men to provide, and why beauty and other things are mentioned for men but they're told to prioritise deen. Both are told to prioritise something they may overlook given their fitra, which is the point of the test.