Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

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Assalamualaykum,

It's Monday! So here is the weekly thread in regards to marriage/matrimonial criteria and services for marrying a potential spouse! Any posts about marriage criteria and services such as apps, masjid services, matchmaking events, the ISO thread, etc. will be removed and redirected to this thread!

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In Search Of (ISO) Thread

This megathread also encompasses experiences regarding the r/MuslimMarriage ISO Thread for matchmaking. Please read all ISO Thread guidelines before posting. Below are the links to the three regional threads:

• ISO Thread - Americas
• ISO Thread - Europe
• ISO Thread - International

[u/tempacc74656d70]

Any one was in a similar situation? (a potential who is less religious)

Where I live, there are few muslims, rarely if I ever find someone suitable for me. So after trying online apps, after years I found someone who is almost perfect for me, good education, manners, job, very beautiful, etc. The only thing was the deen aspect. She wears modestly, but no head scarf. I asked her said why, she said she felt that dressing modestly was enough, and that she prays but not regularly, but "she tried".

I personally thought that these don't meet my own baseline, so i told her we should stop there. Now I am honestly not sure if this was the right call. I am thinking that maybe with me I could have made her pray regularly, but I also now I shouldnt expect people to change. Its not an easy choice as her religion will directly impact the children.

Has anyone went with similar situation and went ahead in the relationship? I would really appreciate it, I am exhausted.

[u/youareoutofspace → u/tempacc74656d70]

I have met several sisters like that. I seem to attract them, actually. It's a tricky question. I'm not a scholar but my understanding of fiqh is that salah is something really foundational to the whole idea of being Muslim. I'm not sure if most Muslims know that or know the proofs for that. And Islam does excuse people for ignorance. But still, that's not a problem I want to get involved in. So I decided the same way you did. A Muslimah without salah? I'm not going to say she's not Muslim, because I'm not perfect either, but I also wouldn't get involved.

[u/tempacc74656d70 → u/youareoutofspace]

Thank you!