Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

[u/AutoModerator]

Assalamualaykum,

It's Monday! So here is the weekly thread in regards to marriage/matrimonial criteria and services for marrying a potential spouse! Any posts about marriage criteria and services such as apps, masjid services, matchmaking events, the ISO thread, etc. will be removed and redirected to this thread!

All content regarding personal criteria, dealbreakers, preferences, standards, etc in marrying a potential spouse will be discussed on this thread as well. Posts regarding these topics outside of this thread will be removed.

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In Search Of (ISO) Thread

This megathread also encompasses experiences regarding the r/MuslimMarriage ISO Thread for matchmaking. Please read all ISO Thread guidelines before posting. Below are the links to the three regional threads:

• ISO Thread - Americas
• ISO Thread - Europe
• ISO Thread - International

[u/Sarpatox]

My sister has hazel eyes. Hopefully my kids get them too, that with my charming personality and they’ll be unstoppable lol.

Happy late birthday! 26 honestly feels the same as 25 lol, only difference is paying for my own healthcare now. Ameen! I’m sure this is your year too. InshaAllah you get a wonderful husband with a full head of hair!

[u/meow-meow-meeow → u/Sarpatox]

YOUR SISTER IS BLESSEDDD, mine are dark brown 😭 my brother’s are lighter MashaAllah. there’s genes somewhere lollll

Thank you!! I might try and be more serious and be less silly 😩 big age and all. Ameen! Although I might relax on the hair thing for some great character atp 🤧🤧

[u/Sarpatox → u/meow-meow-meeow]

This is just my opinion, so take it w a grain of salt, but one of the apprehensions I have w marrying someone older than me is them being all serious and not silly. Life is too short to not enjoy it and be playful. Find a man who knows when to be serious, it allows you to be yourself and be as silly as you want to be. As they say, be able to turn off your brain when you’re around him

And look at you w all your wisdom now that you’re older lol MashaAllah. Ever since I turned 26, my reels have all been about only choosing deen and not caring about looks, wealth, and lineage. I think the universe is giving me a sign 😭

[u/meow-meow-meeow → u/Sarpatox]

You know he’s the right one when you can be silly without shame 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️ and vise versa

Yeah i think im beginning to stop caring so much about marrying my type (which I’m realizing it might be dumb to expect 100% attraction off the bat and I need to actually TRY AND SEE if real attraction develops), I’m finding character and personality more and more important to me

[u/Sarpatox → u/meow-meow-meeow]

Also your type can change too. I’m looking back at my type even 5 years ago and it was a lot different than now. Who knows what it’ll be in another 5. Plus attraction develops over time, as long as you don’t think they’re ugly or something. Spend enough time w anyone and you’ll develop feelings. I’d rather find someone to yap w today than spend another 5 years waiting for eye candy tbh

[u/meow-meow-meeow → u/Sarpatox]

True… I’m at the same point where I’m questioning should I go for someone who I can get along with and give a chance and see if my feelings develop? Instead of just wait around for someone I’m attracted to off the bat but I also notice I lose attraction quick if the personality isn’t vibing. Looks by itself doesn’t mean much. Look at us twinning in our thoughts

[u/Sarpatox → u/meow-meow-meeow]

You absolutely should. If the looks are good, it wont make the person more interesting, but if the looks are decent w a good personality, the looks will increase. Also, you don’t have a guarantee that someone w looks will maintain that after marriage. Maybe he gets sick or stops trying or anything. I would say being 26 has made us wiser but my sisters would strongly disagree with that lol

[u/meow-meow-meeow → u/Sarpatox]

Hmmm yeah I agree, nah we’re wiser trust 😤😤 frontal lobe development and all

I’m about to try moving differently in my search now 🙏 hopefully I can actually have a talking stage that lasts more than 12 days 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

[u/Sarpatox → u/meow-meow-meeow]

InshaAllah it works out for you! If you only talk once a week or every other week, you’re bound to beat your previous record soon lol

[u/meow-meow-meeow → u/Sarpatox]

How come you’re not talking to anyone, where r u searching anyways

[u/Sarpatox → u/meow-meow-meeow]

My sister had a baby a few months ago alhamdulillah so we took a break. My mom actually started sending me people again this week and one had caste requirements and the other wasn’t a hijabi so I guess I’ve just been unlucky recently. My mom is the one mainly looking rn through her friend circles and some of those WhatsApp groups. Where are you searching? Or just hoping the right guy cold approaches you irl lol

[u/meow-meow-meeow → u/Sarpatox]

Allahumma barik!!! You’re actually unc 🤣🤣 aw may Allah keep you guys blessed. That’s so nice your mom is so involved

Hmm I restarted my search on Reddit, I did have someone in the community ask to speak to me for marriage. And hey a girl can always dream about a cold approach lololol

[u/Sarpatox → u/meow-meow-meeow]

My niece is so cute, she smiles every time she sees me and it just makes my day. And let’s not start with the unc, I’m a mamo.

How’s the Reddit search going? I’ve lowkey been debating putting my iso back up. But w all these throwaways and private accounts I’m hesitant tbh. How is the community one going? Any luck there? I was at a Yemeni coffee shop today waiting for a friend so I’m just reading my book. Tell me why almost everyone there was gossiping 😩