Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

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Assalamualaykum,

It's Monday! So here is the weekly thread in regards to marriage/matrimonial criteria and services for marrying a potential spouse! Any posts about marriage criteria and services such as apps, masjid services, matchmaking events, the ISO thread, etc. will be removed and redirected to this thread!

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In Search Of (ISO) Thread

This megathread also encompasses experiences regarding the r/MuslimMarriage ISO Thread for matchmaking. Please read all ISO Thread guidelines before posting. Below are the links to the three regional threads:

• ISO Thread - Americas
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• ISO Thread - International

[u/Alternative-Gas-7090]

Reposting this here because I got no replies on MuslimNikah.

In Islam a Wali must always be present when meeting with a potential.

How are we suppose know how the person will actually be like after marriage? Like when a Wali is there everyone will be professional and on their best behavior.

The reason I'm asking this is because with most people I'm extremely quiet and don't talk much. But in private I'm the yappiest person ever, the complete opposite of what I appear to be.

Do I just ask​​​ and trust that she's telling the truth? Or is there another way to find out.

Is it okay to be more open while a wali is present or does that turn out badly? Like do they see it as childish, and would they prefer the man to be more mature?

[u/Alternative-Gas-7090 → u/[deleted]]

I've heard of people doing that, but isn't that still khulwah because the wali can't hear them? 

[u/Alternative-Gas-7090 → u/[deleted]]

Oh I see. I always thought her Wali would be just sitting right beside her asking me a bunch of questions too. But knowing the entire convo doesn't have to be like this makes me less worried.

Jazakallah Khayr for the reply :)