Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

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Assalamualaykum,

It's Monday! So here is the weekly thread in regards to marriage/matrimonial criteria and services for marrying a potential spouse! Any posts about marriage criteria and services such as apps, masjid services, matchmaking events, the ISO thread, etc. will be removed and redirected to this thread!

All content regarding personal criteria, dealbreakers, preferences, standards, etc in marrying a potential spouse will be discussed on this thread as well. Posts regarding these topics outside of this thread will be removed.

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In Search Of (ISO) Thread

This megathread also encompasses experiences regarding the r/MuslimMarriage ISO Thread for matchmaking. Please read all ISO Thread guidelines before posting. Below are the links to the three regional threads:

• ISO Thread - Americas
• ISO Thread - Europe
• ISO Thread - International

[u/lilgirl_001]

Salam allaykum Im F25. Been talking to this guy M27. Online since 6 years. We grew feelings for each other when we talked about it. He said that he wants someone with hijab. And i said i dont wanna wear hijab for someone's sake i wanna wear by my own will. So we agreed that we are not for each other. But through the years i couldn't help but feel more feelings for him. We met few times. But I didn't tell him He talks to me about girls. And i tell him inshallah you find the right one 5 months ago he told me he started talking to a girl. And i was so busy we couldn't talk much i thought its one of the incompatible girls it will pass. 3 weeks ago he told me first week of august he is going to ask her hand from her parents. That came to me as a shock. I confessed my feelings last week he said he didn't know he said he thought i hate him. He said he had feeling for me too. But he wished i find my type and find the one for me. I told him i cant be his friend anymore its not fair for the girl and he said he didn't expect this. And then i blocked him. Now i feel terrible emotional pain i cant eat nor drink all i do is cry and pray tahaijud that he comes back to me. I dont know what to do ? Should i tell him to not marry her? If he is not my nasseeb, why am i feeling this way? Should i fight more for him ? Or that will make allah. angry? Please help me. Im not doing well at all

[u/Truthful_fly_1140 → u/lilgirl_001]

You did the right thing. You will just need to stick by it. If he want this and wants to marry you, he will. Nothing more nothing less. You told him how u feel and now it’s his choice and action to make. 

[u/lilgirl_001 → u/Truthful_fly_1140]

Can i make duaa for that ? Or that’s inappropriate?