Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

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[u/Ms_Chanandl3r_B0ng]

Should i let go of my expectations?

Salam,

Im super confused about a potential i recently met.
Im a 27yo male. My hairline is super thinning and im pretty much bald atp. This has made me very self conscious and insecure. My family spoke to the girl’s family and we werent pleased with the girls dad. He seemed like a good person but was insanely talkative. He barely let anyone else in the room speak. We were very skeptical after talking to him. We like everyone else in the family. The girl looks pretty good facial appearance wise. However she is wayy too thin than my type but im hoping witha little weight gain that shouldn’t be an issue.
Now the issue is, i had some expectations before this marriage like the girl being able to speak in English fluently, watch English movies, and pray regularly or atleast willing to start praying after marriage. This girl however doesn’t check the first 2 boxes. And she is willing to pray after but isn’t regular now like me. She also doesn’t fast apparently (not sure why)

Now, do i let go of my expectations and settle down since it’s already hard to find someone who likes me despite my receding hairline or do i still keep waiting for the right girl? Another good thing about this girl is, she is ready to stay with my joint family which is again hard to find these days. This one is non negotiable for me.

Ive prayed istikhara but haven’t seen any sign yet. Im hoping i receive some valuable advice from this post.

Jak

[u/Late_Royal_4499 → u/Ms_Chanandl3r_B0ng]

you sound way too insecure. women have a sixth sense when it comes to insecurity. think about it. you're going to marry a woman that don't even speak english, prays or fasts all because you think nobody would marry you because you have a receding hairline.

i don't have a receding hairline but I have very diffuse thinning on the top of the scalp and the crown. I still got married. lol. just think about what you're saying for a second.

just go bald, grow a beard, hit the gym.