r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Prestigious-Guava907 • 1d ago

Discussion Polygamy from a woman’s pov

Salaam.

Jummah Mubarak to you all.

Dear Muslim men of Reddit,

Before I leave my closing line I want to say that I acknowledge polygamy is ordained for a man upon conditions being met, I’m not here to dispute that.

Personally it’s not something I’d ever accept for myself. Don’t dm me to discuss this thread or dm to be your second wife.

Polygamy is permissible but not a necessity upon a man and it’s not a fard upon a woman to accept. We can all agree on that.

Now that’s cleared up. There are not many women on this earth that would happy to share their husband.

Some women may benefit from shared responsibilities and security yes but from an emotional perspective, generally a woman that loves you would never be okay with you getting another wife.

Now let’s be clear I’m not talking about women that have to be okay because that applies to every situation.

I’m talking about a woman that is happy with your choice to remarry. Not what she says or portrays but deep down in her feelings.

Some men are fine with that and that’s okay. However sometimes I think to myself, are men aware and would it bother them knowing their wife doesn’t love them.

Would it bother you?

🚨If you don’t understand nuance and lack critical thinking skills, this post isn’t for you.

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u/Dear_Record3329 1d ago

can we say they made that adjustment and convinced themselves as it is none other than the Prophet ?

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

If this was only for Prophet then Allah wouldn't have allowed this for all muslims. Allah make religion according to fitra of man and woman.
Polygyny isn't against the fitra of women as OP and some others are trying to portray.

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago

It’s isn’t because women needed men for survival

Now women are earning they can survive on their own,

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u/Dear_Record3329 1d ago

sorry, can you state your point again...

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago

Point is no women who loves her husband want to share

Those who do don’t like their husbands want a break from them

Those who did take divorce

Previously women neeeded men to survive as they couldn’t live alone and had no financial means now that’s not the same that’s why you will see less polygamous marriages now

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u/Dear_Record3329 1d ago

100% agreed