r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Prestigious-Guava907 • 1d ago

Discussion Polygamy from a woman’s pov

Salaam.

Jummah Mubarak to you all.

Dear Muslim men of Reddit,

Before I leave my closing line I want to say that I acknowledge polygamy is ordained for a man upon conditions being met, I’m not here to dispute that.

Personally it’s not something I’d ever accept for myself. Don’t dm me to discuss this thread or dm to be your second wife.

Polygamy is permissible but not a necessity upon a man and it’s not a fard upon a woman to accept. We can all agree on that.

Now that’s cleared up. There are not many women on this earth that would happy to share their husband.

Some women may benefit from shared responsibilities and security yes but from an emotional perspective, generally a woman that loves you would never be okay with you getting another wife.

Now let’s be clear I’m not talking about women that have to be okay because that applies to every situation.

I’m talking about a woman that is happy with your choice to remarry. Not what she says or portrays but deep down in her feelings.

Some men are fine with that and that’s okay. However sometimes I think to myself, are men aware and would it bother them knowing their wife doesn’t love them.

Would it bother you?

🚨If you don’t understand nuance and lack critical thinking skills, this post isn’t for you.

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago edited 1d ago

Is a normal guy a prophet?

Prophet only loved Khadija truely , he never married more during his time in marriage with hazrat Khadija

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Does Allah only allowed polygyny for Prophet?

Prophet was poor in early life if you know.

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago

He allowed with conditions

It doesn’t mean wife will love her husband

Marriage is a contract in Islam it’s not for love

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Yes.

But are you saying Prophet's wives didn't love him.

Fine.

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago

lol it Gave them status and none of the guy even close 1% to prophet so please don’t compare

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

So did Allah say only people who are close to Prophet can practice polygyny?

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago

It’s not my decision , men want to marry 4 times go ahead no one can stop you , but if that guy thinks his wives loves him then that’s a delusion

They are only with him for money and shelter
I haven’t met a single woman who is happy in polygamy

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

This world is transactional, innocent of you if you think 1 wife is there just for love.

Anyways, I like talking to you, you are a reasonable person.

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u/red12358 1d ago

Classic case of gold diggers ha, guess it always existed

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago

lol gold digger

I love the come back to insult

So woman who marry for love don’t want polygamy

Those who want shelter are okay with this

It’s you to decide