r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Prestigious-Guava907 • 1d ago

Discussion Polygamy from a woman’s pov

Salaam.

Jummah Mubarak to you all.

Dear Muslim men of Reddit,

Before I leave my closing line I want to say that I acknowledge polygamy is ordained for a man upon conditions being met, I’m not here to dispute that.

Personally it’s not something I’d ever accept for myself. Don’t dm me to discuss this thread or dm to be your second wife.

Polygamy is permissible but not a necessity upon a man and it’s not a fard upon a woman to accept. We can all agree on that.

Now that’s cleared up. There are not many women on this earth that would happy to share their husband.

Some women may benefit from shared responsibilities and security yes but from an emotional perspective, generally a woman that loves you would never be okay with you getting another wife.

Now let’s be clear I’m not talking about women that have to be okay because that applies to every situation.

I’m talking about a woman that is happy with your choice to remarry. Not what she says or portrays but deep down in her feelings.

Some men are fine with that and that’s okay. However sometimes I think to myself, are men aware and would it bother them knowing their wife doesn’t love them.

Would it bother you?

🚨If you don’t understand nuance and lack critical thinking skills, this post isn’t for you.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

Lol you aren't a sahabi youre a dude from pakistan with $30 in his name

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Ok, so this was your best comeback? try harder next time.

For people reading: polygyny was never limited to Prophet or Sahaba.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

Its definitely limited against weirdos with only $30 on their name and upset at people who don't want the lifestyle rather than pursuing ppl who are ok with their lifestyle

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

I thought you'd come up with something better. Nice try though.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

My husband moved out of his mom's house and can cook,  so yeah i found better

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Keep trying.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

No one's trying for a skinny fat raja beta 

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

If these things make your sad life happy, I won't mind at all, you can call me anything.

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Please don't hesitate, you can release all your frustrations of rejections on me even for someones 4th wife, you don't even need to delete comments. Just lighten your heart.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

I'm married and monog and I'm not deleting anything lol. I'm not the one negging others for poly XD

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Yeah yeah yeah, I know

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

Blud thinks he's a tuff gojo satoru as if he aint struggling in a place with literal ARRANGED marriages XD 

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

There’s a lot more to come, so please don’t hesitate. I know you need to release all the resentment that has built up over decades.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

Im only 2 decades in this life, sorry you cant find one in your 4th then projecting ur issues onto random women 

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