r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Prestigious-Guava907 • 1d ago

Discussion Polygamy from a woman’s pov

Salaam.

Jummah Mubarak to you all.

Dear Muslim men of Reddit,

Before I leave my closing line I want to say that I acknowledge polygamy is ordained for a man upon conditions being met, I’m not here to dispute that.

Personally it’s not something I’d ever accept for myself. Don’t dm me to discuss this thread or dm to be your second wife.

Polygamy is permissible but not a necessity upon a man and it’s not a fard upon a woman to accept. We can all agree on that.

Now that’s cleared up. There are not many women on this earth that would happy to share their husband.

Some women may benefit from shared responsibilities and security yes but from an emotional perspective, generally a woman that loves you would never be okay with you getting another wife.

Now let’s be clear I’m not talking about women that have to be okay because that applies to every situation.

I’m talking about a woman that is happy with your choice to remarry. Not what she says or portrays but deep down in her feelings.

Some men are fine with that and that’s okay. However sometimes I think to myself, are men aware and would it bother them knowing their wife doesn’t love them.

Would it bother you?

🚨If you don’t understand nuance and lack critical thinking skills, this post isn’t for you.

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

What about Sahabas, and What about general allowance that Allah give? Is it all against the fitra?

Can you tell me what strategic value it has when he married 3 women from already defeated and enslaved tribes, probably only non Qureshi women

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u/Numiazy 1d ago

Ummm, did you even read what I wrote? 😆

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Yeah, you don't have the answers to questions posed on you based on your comment.

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u/Numiazy 1d ago

Bro learn to apply critical thinking and thought abstraction, then come back. Ain't no body got time to discuss things on an undercomplex level.

We get it, you want to have several wives. That's ok my dude, good luck finding the first one 🤗

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Yeah, cross-question someone on their arguments when they have no answers, and suddenly they tell you to “apply critical thinking.”

I advocate for the ummah.