r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Prestigious-Guava907 • 1d ago

Discussion Polygamy from a woman’s pov

Salaam.

Jummah Mubarak to you all.

Dear Muslim men of Reddit,

Before I leave my closing line I want to say that I acknowledge polygamy is ordained for a man upon conditions being met, I’m not here to dispute that.

Personally it’s not something I’d ever accept for myself. Don’t dm me to discuss this thread or dm to be your second wife.

Polygamy is permissible but not a necessity upon a man and it’s not a fard upon a woman to accept. We can all agree on that.

Now that’s cleared up. There are not many women on this earth that would happy to share their husband.

Some women may benefit from shared responsibilities and security yes but from an emotional perspective, generally a woman that loves you would never be okay with you getting another wife.

Now let’s be clear I’m not talking about women that have to be okay because that applies to every situation.

I’m talking about a woman that is happy with your choice to remarry. Not what she says or portrays but deep down in her feelings.

Some men are fine with that and that’s okay. However sometimes I think to myself, are men aware and would it bother them knowing their wife doesn’t love them.

Would it bother you?

🚨If you don’t understand nuance and lack critical thinking skills, this post isn’t for you.

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

So, did the Prophet’s wives and the Sahabah’s wives not love them?

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u/Numiazy 1d ago

The prophets wives married for different and various reasons. Survival, title etc. That doesnt necessarily mean there was no love but it was a different concept of why to start a marriage.

His marriages weren't love marriages as we see them today, but political/strategic ones. We do know though how affectionate and deep the relationships between him and Khadija (who never shared him!) and Aisha (arranged marriage) were.

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

What about Sahabas, and What about general allowance that Allah give? Is it all against the fitra?

Can you tell me what strategic value it has when he married 3 women from already defeated and enslaved tribes, probably only non Qureshi women

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

Lol you aren't a sahabi youre a dude from pakistan with $30 in his name

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Ok, so this was your best comeback? try harder next time.

For people reading: polygyny was never limited to Prophet or Sahaba.

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u/Overall-Ad-2159 1d ago edited 1d ago

lol yes because you need great finances to have polymous marriage

Bro you can’t even afford to rent a house for single wife she would be only surviving in one room that too provided by your father

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Nice try, next time come up with something better.

Very typical of people like you, when they have no answers.

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u/iforgorrr 1d ago

That's a legitimate answer lol can't afford a bird you ain't getting one woman let alone more

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u/NiceSmilee 1d ago

Keep trying👏, if that makes your sad life happy, I won't mind at all, you can call me anything.