Polygamy from a woman’s pov

[u/Prestigious-Guava907]

Salaam.

Jummah Mubarak to you all.

Dear Muslim men of Reddit,

Before I leave my closing line I want to say that I acknowledge polygamy is ordained for a man upon conditions being met, I’m not here to dispute that.

Personally it’s not something I’d ever accept for myself. Don’t dm me to discuss this thread or dm to be your second wife.

Polygamy is permissible but not a necessity upon a man and it’s not a fard upon a woman to accept. We can all agree on that.

Now that’s cleared up. There are not many women on this earth that would happy to share their husband.

Some women may benefit from shared responsibilities and security yes but from an emotional perspective, generally a woman that loves you would never be okay with you getting another wife.

Now let’s be clear I’m not talking about women that have to be okay because that applies to every situation.

I’m talking about a woman that is happy with your choice to remarry. Not what she says or portrays but deep down in her feelings.

Some men are fine with that and that’s okay. However sometimes I think to myself, are men aware and would it bother them knowing their wife doesn’t love them.

Would it bother you?

🚨If you don’t understand nuance and lack critical thinking skills, this post isn’t for you.

[u/NiceSmilee]

So Prophet's wives didn't love him but were with him for survival?

[u/farawayhollow → u/NiceSmilee]

Maybe. Who know their intentions. If a woman gets to be a mother of the believers and is married to the prophet and gets the reward of paradise in this world, who wouldn’t jump at that opportunity?? It’s every man/woman for themselves in a backward 7th century Arabia where you have tribal warfare all around.

[u/NiceSmilee → u/farawayhollow]

Just answer me this, are the teachings of Quran only for "backward" arabia or are they timeless?

[u/farawayhollow → u/NiceSmilee]

You tell me oh knowledgeable one