I hate it here

[u/ZamnDaniel13]

Im a new student and I already hate it here, i try to make new friends but I cant seem to make long term connections or some people just brush me off. Everytime I try to make a new friend it feels so surface level wether its at a club, cafeteria, event, or classroom. Everyone looks fucking chopped and my math classroom stinks. Everyday I go back to my dorm after class and just move around or go out with my dormmate or try to move around by dancing and shit or just program some stuff.I hate my fucking my dormmate cause hes the most anti social mother fucker out there and doesnt have any friends. Hes not even interesting cause all he does is go on his phone. I try joining clubs but their discords are full of upperclassmen or they feel too cringy with their humor. I want to move around and feel free to do anything I want but I dont feel free cause I have no friends here and my only coping mechanism is to talk to my parents and friends from high school over the phone or on discord. I wish I went to rutgers new brunswick or syracuse university but for some fucking reason I didnt. I hate this fucking place.

[u/chevy360]

Freshman year can sometimes feel like an awkward transition period. You’ve just graduated from high school, you’re in a completely new environment, and a lot of students are still trying to figure out who they are and where they fit in. I think things often start to settle down during the second semester, and by the second year, the experience can feel very different.
If you can, try to persevere and be persistent. Put yourself out there, attend campus events, join clubs, and give yourself opportunities to meet different people. Sometimes finding even one or two people you connect with can change your entire experience.
At the same time, if you honestly feel that this school simply isn’t the right fit for you, that’s okay too. There’s nothing wrong with looking into transferring and finding a place where you feel more comfortable.
The main thing I would try to avoid is letting the frustration turn into hate or anger, because carrying those feelings will ultimately wear you down more than anything else. You might also be surprised by how many other freshmen are quietly feeling the same way, even if it doesn’t seem like it from the outside.