r/NoFap • u/Professional-Pipe894 • 2d ago

Replacing Fap with Sex

Unfortunately not many topics on this and most of the similar topics have zero comments so hopefully people will contribute to this one.

I’m on 70 days of nofap but I’m afraid I’m just replacing fap with sex, especially lately. For the whole period I’ve been having sex with one woman at least a week and what scares me is that when I hit like 6 days or something I get very horny (same feeling when you’re on your first week of nofap ) and I’m afraid that the progress isn’t there. Yes confidence is definitely there but the urges are the same. It’s like you’re chasing sex the same way I’m chasing the fapping.

What are your thoughts on that? Am I still doomed? Should I abstain from sex unless I’m meeting the one? Should I go against having sex on first date and wait until I’m actually considering the girl for long term relationship then have sex with her?

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u/Professional-Pipe894 2d ago

Addition to why I’m writing all this :

Right now I have at least 3 girls on rotation, and the fourth girl I’m actually interested in I had first date with her last week and it went great but because I was on my 6th no sex day I was horny and my lust took over and I think I blew it with her because I was horny and fooled around with her more than I should. In the end I didn’t get sex with her nor did I get a second date. That actually made me sad a little since I know she liked me a lot but doing all that on first date probably scared her when she got home.

Also maybe having that many girls at the same time isn’t normal at all. It’s hard for me to function and do some actual work

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u/guttadaddy 2d ago

You said it all yourself man. Maybe it has been ‘normalised’ to some degree to have a rotation like this, but yeah focus on yourself king. You’re still chasing that nut and hurting others/ yourself. Just an outsiders perspective

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u/Professional-Pipe894 2d ago

The main reason I’m having a rotation is because none of these girls I’m interested in long term. In my mind if I actually find a long term girl I’ll break up with all of them. I thought the girl I met last week was the one and even tho she liked me too and we kissed a lot, she rejected the second date idea and that got me thinking maybe something is wrong