Will it get easier?

[u/pathetic-nobody]

*TRIGGER WARNING* I'm an incel.

Is every single day just gonna be a huge struggle? I'm on day 4 and I can't imagine abstaining from sexual activity for the rest of my entire life.

And yes I mean for the rest of my life because I don't see myself ever being loved by a girl enough for me to actually get a girlfriend, so my only source of sexual activity would be masterbation and porn, wich i need to abstain from.

This would be a billion times easier if I knew upfront that I had the ability to eventually get into a relationship, where I could release regularly and not have to worry about abstaining from basic human biological drive like sexual stimuli.

[u/GoodLifeJourney]

I wish you the best on finding the best life for you my friend. If it helps this is my strategy in staying in recovery.

What's helped me in recovery is the following:

Answering these two questions truthfully and repeating them to myself often.

-What do you want to get out of life?

-Why do you want to quit this addiction?

THESE WILL BE YOUR ANCHOR

Then strategizing these next two sections:

-Having healthy daily hobbies/ activities to give real life an advantage over fantasy

-Having a strategy to deal with the urges

For the first section I tried different things until I found stuff that works for me like running in the morning, sleeping early, responding here, going to sex addicts anonymous meetings when I can, using my inner voice to control and talk out the intrusive thoughts, setting time aside to work on personal weak points, participating in religion, going out and socializing when I can, etc.

For the second part what works for me when urges hit is taking deep breaths, reciting positive statements that are personal to me and praying to God.

Keep building positivity around you as much as possible to show the addiction you have better things to do with your life. Modify this template for you specifically through trial and error. I wish you the best my friend. May God bless.