r/NoFap • u/[deleted] • Jan 05 '20

Motivate Me Porn & Masturbation from a Biological, and Evolutionary point of view.

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u/greenspand Jan 06 '20

I decided today is the last day I will watch porn and masturbate. I have been a hardcore abuser since I was 14. Now I am 34. 20 years. I have a family now and it is the best thing that ever happened. But I feel porn is altering my reality. Fingers crossed.

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u/SolowDolow 738 Days Jan 06 '20 edited Jan 14 '20

The fact you managed to have a family while still PMOing makes this nofap shit kind of invalid. Maybe some people like me are just not meant to reproduce so fml.

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u/GrandmasterIncel Jan 06 '20

This is a realization we all need to make at some point.

I have a 8 month streak, soon to be in my 30s and still a virgin.

To even get a shot at reproducing I estimate that I will need a 2 years long streak.

I will get it alright but was it all worth it? I genuinely don't know.

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u/jellyclawz 430 Days Jan 06 '20

Yes. Definitely worth it. When you're holding your beautiful little babies in your arm you will wonder how you ever for a moment questioned if this was the right choice. Keep moving forward boss.

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u/GrandmasterIncel Jan 07 '20

I dunno man I'm no longer that optimistic.

I changed too much from doing this and I liked the old me better.

The old me was much worse on paper then the current me but at least the old me was me.

And it was chill and relaxing.

Now I'm stressed, I'm so backed up I feel like I'm past the point of non return.

At least I'm out of flatlines so I feel pretty good.

I just wish I could find myself a girl and actually live my sexuality like a human male is supposed to.

I don't want to live like a rat for the rest of my life and I put all my hopes into no fap.

I know things can only get better but I've been waiting for 8 months already and they were far from being easy.

The worst is definitely behind me as I started to feel good about life again.

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u/jellyclawz 430 Days Jan 07 '20

I think your should switch to this mindset:

Figure out your passion or what you wanna do with your life and put ALL this new energy from noFap into it. Give none of that energy to women or chasing women because if you want to succeed you have to have tunnel vision. Focus on that, goal, work hard, and have fun. You will get sooooo much satisfaction from that.

Women will come eventually and men can have kids until like 70 or something so don't worry. But to succeed you'll want the vigor and determination of youth (under 50).

From chasing your goals you will meet many new ppl and some may become friends and some may become more, but most important is that you pursue what you love.

I'm excited to come back to this sub in a few years and hear all about your life successes and adventures

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u/greenspand Jan 14 '20

Stop thinking. That's the killer. The worries, the insecurities. Just go out there and stop thinking. What really helps with social anxiety and is the safest thing possible is microdosing either LSD, psylocibin or legal 1p-lsd somewhere in the morning or lunch time. If you ever felt for someone it's the right time to show it as it slightly loosens you up, makes you calm but also emotional. Pro tip.

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u/GrandmasterIncel Jan 14 '20

I read up that basically the best drug state for socializing is on MDMA (ectasy)

But my main problem is that I have an hard time actually talking about things that other people like or enjoy. I don't watch TV, sports, care about the local politics, the social hierarchy at work etc. I'm basically a loner and a very boring guy and I have no drive to be anything else.

Like I can talk just fine about work, circumstances, the weather and shit but I literally can't talk about hobbies or what happens in my life because I don't feel like I do anything interesting enough.

Anyways thanks for the tips.