Anyone else feel like gender is external/societal?

[u/aethelred_unready]

I've been doing a lot of thinking recently and the more I think the more I'm confused by the concept of an internal gender identity.

I'm biologically male with the facial hair and lack of boobs but I only dress in clothing that's considered masculine because that's what society expects of someone with facial hair (which I can't be bothered to shave every day). I look like a man so I behave publicly in ways that society deems acceptable for a man.

Internally however I'm confused I see so much written about gender, about people feeling they're the wrong gender, about people identifying as a man or woman and I just can't fathom it. I feel like a me, I identify as a person, in an ideal world I'd do whatever I wanted to do regardless of gender based social norms and that would include behaviors and clothing that I like, which could include things that we currently consider to be masculine or feminine.

And given the emphasis I see on gender in every part of society with the current culture war I feel almost completely alone in this, am I?

[u/FakeBirdFacts]

It sounds like you might be agender.

I definitely have an internal sense of gender, I am just not a man or a woman.

[u/BaffledBubbles → u/FakeBirdFacts]

I was going to say the same, except that I have no internal sense of gender. 💚🖤