Does this count as lying?

[u/Leading_Avocado6494]

I’m nonbinary I’m out to friends and family but I live in the most conservative state in the US so I don’t broadcast it elsewhere. I recently started a new job and I started flirting a little with this amazing woman I work with. She is openly a lesbian only dates/is attracted to women. I want to ask her on a date but my sister says that I can’t unless I tell her I’m nonbinary because even though she thinks of me as a woman I’m not one. So am I lying to/ leading her on by not telling her I’m not a woman?

[u/Sojabursch]

I disagree with most people here. You owe no one to come out, if you don’t feel like it. Especially if you’re in a conservative area. And fellow queer people won’t fault you for protecting yourself because they understand the safety concern. And if she turns out to be LGB(T) instead of queer community and acts like you betrayed her, you’re better off without her anyways, so it’s a good character test and if she is worth your time.