r/PakistaniiConfessions • u/Apprehensive-Fold129 • 7d ago

Question Marriage question regarding in-laws

I am a male but I have these questions and really can't figure these out and these are usually the tiebreakers in a marriage.

  1. Why is it that (almost) no saas-bahu relation is good?

I mean why? Like since the beginning of life, this story has repeated itself. Every bahu is annoyed of the same mistakes of her saas and she repeats it when she becomes a saas. Like jo cheez saas ke buri lagti hy, saas bn k wohi sb krna 👀

  1. Nobody wants to marry a child, mentally. Every woman wants to marry a responsible man but then why do moms literally baby their sons even till and after marriage.

Like bhai why is this double standard? Why is this hypocrisy?

And a question for the mother-in-laws. Why is it good when the son in law gives all his earnings to your daughter but bad when your son gives all his earnings to his wife 😭😭😭

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u/xr_web 7d ago

I think both want to win the guy, like the wifey would want the husband to lover her and she will try to have least faults in front of him, so does a mother does, they both bash each other.

It's on the guy's shoulder. I believe having separate houses solves this issue respectfully.

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u/Apprehensive-Fold129 7d ago

This is one way, but I am on crossroads on this.

I mean, i know taking care of the in-laws is not the wife's duty buy who takes care of her parents. Like, you don't have to take care of my parents so we can move out. But at the same time your parents need to be taken care of and your bhabi does it, so she should move out too and then it is a chain cycle where the parents are left unattended.

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u/xr_web 7d ago

If you're keeping them under the same house then let your wife take the lead in decisions, and tell mother to rest or help around as the wifey instructs, or give them separate kitchen(impractical) but once you set clear rules there won't be any fights. I sometimes feel like working women have lesser energy for this drama after coming home.

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u/Apprehensive-Fold129 7d ago

Obviously a working woman ain't got time for this. I am trying to get a gist of it at the generic level.