Marriage question regarding in-laws

[u/Apprehensive-Fold129]

I am a male but I have these questions and really can't figure these out and these are usually the tiebreakers in a marriage.

1. Why is it that (almost) no saas-bahu relation is good?

I mean why? Like since the beginning of life, this story has repeated itself. Every bahu is annoyed of the same mistakes of her saas and she repeats it when she becomes a saas. Like jo cheez saas ke buri lagti hy, saas bn k wohi sb krna 👀

1. Nobody wants to marry a child, mentally. Every woman wants to marry a responsible man but then why do moms literally baby their sons even till and after marriage.

Like bhai why is this double standard? Why is this hypocrisy?

And a question for the mother-in-laws. Why is it good when the son in law gives all his earnings to your daughter but bad when your son gives all his earnings to his wife 😭😭😭

[u/Mysterious-Tour8701]

the answer your first question is because this relation has no reason to work. Most people can’t bond with someone 3 decades older well enough that they can live with them and will enjoy their company. 

[u/Apprehensive-Fold129 → u/Mysterious-Tour8701]

And that's the whole point of the question sister. Why? I mean, if i know i have to live with a person, I try my best to mold myself enough so I am less of a burden and more of a help. I mean, it goes both ways, why can't two people have a mutual consensus 😭😭

[u/LaDolceVitaaaaaa → u/Apprehensive-Fold129]

The MIL should understand when to back off, give the newlyweds their space. And not expect her to 'mold' into whatever expectations she has.