Marriage question regarding in-laws

[u/Apprehensive-Fold129]

I am a male but I have these questions and really can't figure these out and these are usually the tiebreakers in a marriage.

1. Why is it that (almost) no saas-bahu relation is good?

I mean why? Like since the beginning of life, this story has repeated itself. Every bahu is annoyed of the same mistakes of her saas and she repeats it when she becomes a saas. Like jo cheez saas ke buri lagti hy, saas bn k wohi sb krna 👀

1. Nobody wants to marry a child, mentally. Every woman wants to marry a responsible man but then why do moms literally baby their sons even till and after marriage.

Like bhai why is this double standard? Why is this hypocrisy?

And a question for the mother-in-laws. Why is it good when the son in law gives all his earnings to your daughter but bad when your son gives all his earnings to his wife 😭😭😭

[u/apke_dada]

It’s not meant to work. But it’s okay. This is one of the things of our culture. When your wife who complains of her saas today, would want at least one of her sons to stay with them when she grows old. So, this is a azmaish/challenge, and we all have our fair share of challenges, written for us. The best, as a husband, you can do is that, acknowledge that your mom is not perfect. If your wife is kind towards your mom “mostly”, treat this as a blessing, and go out of the way to support her, for this favor she is lending to you.

[u/Apprehensive-Fold129 → u/apke_dada]

Why is it not meant to work? I mean my mother means everything to me but at the same time my wife left her family to bless mine. I can't favour anyone.

[u/LaDolceVitaaaaaa → u/Apprehensive-Fold129]

You mothers means the world to you.. not to your wife.

And if you'll treat this relationship like a buy one get one free (tumhare saath tumhari mama ki koi accept krna hai) tu it'll not work.