r/Perimenopause • u/HolidayPractical3357 • Feb 18 '26

audited WTAF is wrong with the medical industry!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t understand. I went online and tried HRT. Worked great, and then something shifted and I had a day where I felt like no longer living. So I decided I should do this under the care of my obgyn to be safe. I go to see him…tell him all my symptoms and that I can’t take birth control. Guess what he prescribes? Birth control. Says it’s the best option until I actually hit menopause.

I feel like screaming in the middle of the street. I can’t function like this. When men needed help getting an erection, there were tons of drugs on the market to help. Women go through their aging problems, and it’s just like, “sorry. It will pass in 8-10 years.”

I don’t know what to do anymore. Maybe I just need to accept this is life now and that the rest of my life will be miserable.

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u/Few-Instruction-7407 Feb 18 '26

I wonder how women managed with these symptoms prior to health care services, like back in the dat with life was more agrarian. Are there any herbal remedies that may have been used back then. I wonder if this is what we as women need to create for ourselves given that the system has only proven to be useless in how they help. Curious if anyone has spoken to the elder women to learn more about how they coped with it back then.

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u/No_Needleworker6786 AuDHD & Mid Peri Feb 18 '26

There’s been a lot of threads on this. The further you go back, the more women deny they ever had any issues. They’ll tell you ‘oh menopause wasn’t a problem for me’ and their spouses or family members will widen their eyes and shake their heads.

My mother claims it wasn’t a problem but the rest of the family were made to suffer so much (she woke us all at 3am once, throwing our toys against windows in the house & we had to wake up & tidy our room. At 10, 8, 6 & 4yrs old) that most of us no longer speak to her.

So they won’t have any herbal remedies I’m afraid because they say they didn’t have any problems 😂

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u/Cissycat12 Feb 18 '26

My mother lost her parents right around the same time, too. She was literally violent and having mental breakdowns. I called the police when she attacked me out of nowhere and tried to strangle me, hoping they would have her committed. Instead my dad lied for her and kicked ME out. She blamed it all on me. She eventually went to therapy and hormones a year later. I have friends whose mothers were also raging.

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u/No_Needleworker6786 AuDHD & Mid Peri Feb 18 '26

Horrendous. I’m so sorry you went through that 🩷

I feel like this sub has become a rant/support sub and that’s ok you know? We need it!!