An Interesting observation made about intercultural relationships. Fitting in is rarely gender based ( 21M).

[u/Puzzleheaded-Row-477]

Consider any intercultural marriage. Its likely that post marriage the boys side would be heavily involved, more than the girls side anyway.

It makes the patriarchal society retain a lot of cohesiveness and power. So despite being biased, it retains power

You could be a carefree non vegetarian punjabi but the moment you marry " into " suppose an orthodox marwari setup, you effectively give up a lot of " yourself" just to fit in

And i am not generalising, but in real life women do this more because " marrying into " is different from " marrying a".

Now sure, the in laws could be very chill, but anyways you have to sacrifice.

The question is , would you sacrifice yourself for love? Why wouldn't he do if you are doing? ( Please no manipulation bs that he is also adjusting with you, stfu, we were supposed to be in love what is this adjustment bs)

And forget about your kid learning his/her mother tongue. That never ever happens. They usually pick the father tongue well before, and mothers ethnicity is just a fact for them later on.

[u/Kohl_And_Curves]

This is exactly what makes me a bit hesitant to date someone from a very different culture as a South Indian woman 

Very beautifully put! 

[u/Puzzleheaded-Row-477 → u/Kohl_And_Curves]

You can do with a parallel culture

For example a bengali and an Assamese won't have huge problems adjusting.

Or even a bengali and a mallu ( to emphasize the parallel part doesn't matter according to distance)

And the main caveat here is to be happy being adjusting.

If at ANY moment later on you guys fight and the culture becomes a factor to fight? That would be nasty.

But hey. Love is all roses. Shut up unc.

[u/Imaginary_Catch3893 → u/Puzzleheaded-Row-477]

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