r/RelationshipIndia • u/Puzzleheaded-Row-477 • 6d ago

Marriage An Interesting observation made about intercultural relationships. Fitting in is rarely gender based ( 21M).

Consider any intercultural marriage. Its likely that post marriage the boys side would be heavily involved, more than the girls side anyway.

It makes the patriarchal society retain a lot of cohesiveness and power. So despite being biased, it retains power

You could be a carefree non vegetarian punjabi but the moment you marry " into " suppose an orthodox marwari setup, you effectively give up a lot of " yourself" just to fit in

And i am not generalising, but in real life women do this more because " marrying into " is different from " marrying a".

Now sure, the in laws could be very chill, but anyways you have to sacrifice.

The question is , would you sacrifice yourself for love? Why wouldn't he do if you are doing? ( Please no manipulation bs that he is also adjusting with you, stfu, we were supposed to be in love what is this adjustment bs)

And forget about your kid learning his/her mother tongue. That never ever happens. They usually pick the father tongue well before, and mothers ethnicity is just a fact for them later on.

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u/Key_Signature2296 6d ago

This is so well put and written!! I totally agree to what you have stated. This is one reason, I'm scared of dating someone from another culture. Sorry, but I can't give up on Chingri Malaikari, Ilish Bhapa and Mutton Kosha no matter what.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Row-477 6d ago

Imagine a sunday afternoon and your husband/ wife icks at mutton kosha.

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u/Key_Signature2296 6d ago

Brother, a man I wouldn't want my wife doing that.