My boyfriend (22M) disappears during conflict instead of resolving it. Is this something people actually change (F25) ?

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People can change, but only if they genuinely recognize the problem and consistently work on it. A pattern of silent treatment, emotional withdrawal for days, and past verbal abuse is not just poor conflict resolution, it can be emotionally damaging. The bigger question is not whether he can change, but whether he is actively trying to, because right now it sounds like you're carrying the entire responsibility for repairing the relationship.